I'm probably being unreasonable but...??

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I'm probably being unreasonable but...??
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Wed, 11-14-2007 - 11:33am
So, I've been out with this guy ONCE, we had a really good long date, made out at the end..and he wrote me a few days later to say he had a good time. We made plans to hang out a second time this thursday, but aside from that, there's NO communication with him--he just told me he liked the first date, we made the plans for the second date, and that's been that. Pleasant enough, buthe took his time responding each time, so much so that it's been two weeks since date number one. Now I know he doesn't know me at all, and I don't know him, but I can't help wishing that he wrote more or talked more in this pre-date space. Is that unreasonable? It doesn't necessarily mean anything at this point that he has just made the plans and not chatted otherwise, right? I'm trying to remember that things are moving forward, he wrote ME to tell me he had a great time, we're going out again, and there could be lots of reasons why he hasn't written longer emails, but the obsessive nervous "what if he just wants to have sex with me and doesn't like me aside from that" voice rises up in me. How do I calm myself down? Relax? It's so EARLY!
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Wed, 11-14-2007 - 11:50am

It probably means that he's busy with his life and maybe even dating other people--which you should be doing too in order to avoid getting so focused on one guy after just one date.


I would tend to think the opposite of you--that if he just wanted to have sex he'd be up your butt with the phone calls and emails and buttering you up more.

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Wed, 11-14-2007 - 6:33pm
I know what you mean.
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Registered: 06-08-2006
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 9:28am
I think Sheri's right, if he wanted to only have sex, he'd be all over you with the phone calls and emails, he's probably just been a bit busy or not wanting to rush things.
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Registered: 11-10-2007
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 10:25am
Yeah, and from this mountaintop that spells B-O-R-I-N-G.
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Registered: 06-08-2006
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 10:30am
AH Ha! Now we know how you like your men! ;)
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Registered: 11-10-2007
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 8:17pm

Okay...so I'm exposed...hehehe.