i'm so anxious, help!

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Registered: 08-04-2003
i'm so anxious, help!
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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 8:03pm
hi y'all...i hope someone out there can relate to this...i won't call it a problem or an issue, b/c it's something i am anxiously awaiting- but that's just it! my boyfriend told me this past weekend that he plans to propose to me within the next few months- that's all he will tell me, so as to not ruin the surprise effect. i am so excited that i am getting stressed out about it- i want it to happen now! lol...i don't know how to patiently wait...any tips? i have already begun looking up reception halls, flowers, etc. online. I want to just chill until we are officially engaged but I'm not sure how...
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 7:37am
mlm2525...

Pianoguy doesn't want to burst your bubble...but...TALK IS CHEAP!

Until he has the ring in his hand and he's down on his knees to pop the question, continue to keep your head on straight! Don't start planning a wedding date until the engagement is official! On-line research is okay...but if you make all the plans in advance of the proposal...your ALMOST FIANCEE will probably get p----d....err....upset?

The biggest mistake MANY WOMEN MAKE is trying to rush the process! So DON'T! Having an 'emotional heart attack' prior to your nuptials isn't pretty!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 12:30pm
I say stop it.

What if a few months goes by and he hasn't popped the question. Are you going to have the whole wedding arranged and waiting in the wings? So that if he does ask, you can say, "great, by the way we can do it this sat!"

Until he does ask, I think it's ok to think about what you would like to have at a wedding, but don't obsess. There was a poster on here a little while back who's boyfriend had said he wanted to get married, but a year later there was still no ring, and then he broke up with her saying, "I only said that so you would stick around".

So until it's a done deal, just relax and go with the flow. Seems kinda silly to me that he would even bring it up.

Alison

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