i'm so confused...advice please!!
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i'm so confused...advice please!!
| Tue, 09-28-2004 - 7:29pm |
ok...i wrote on this board a few weeks ago entitled 'he says "i love you" lightly'. well let me explain this whole situation. this guy(steven) and i went to high school together and we were friends with mutual people so we started hanging out together more. i always had a crush on him but i never really tried to pursue it. so i started going out with another guy. me and the guy i started going out with decided to go on a break. so me and steven were talking online and i told him my mom was out of town. so he ended up coming over. we were just talking, watching t.v.. and some how it lead to us making out. so that was the furthest it ever went and after that night i ended up getting back together with my bf and he got a gf and ended up moving away for college.
so fast forward 2 years later and my bf and i broke up for good and steven moved back.
i didn't even know he did move back until i was with a mutual friend of ours and she told me that he had moved back so we hung out with him. a few weeks later he called me and told me how he has always had feelings for me and that he was very happy to see me. i told him i felt the same. so we hung out again...more personal this time. making out...talking about the feelings we had for each other. he admitted that while he was gone he thought about me a lot and the reason why he never really pursued me is because me and that other guy were involved.
so anyways ever since that talk we have hung out a lot and we used to talk almost everyday. (this was about a month ago now that we admitted feelings for each other). THIS IS THE PART WHERE IM VERY CONFUSED--like i said in my last post he always says "i love you" but in a light-hearted way. and he'll sleep over and we'll cuddle all night and pretty much act like a couple and he'll tell me how much he likes me and how he has never felt so comfortable with a girl. but then we'll make plans and he won't call (i confronted him about that, so he hasn't done it since) but now he'll say he'll call and won't until a few days later. or if his friends are around he'll hardly go near me. and when i call him, he'll act really wierd with me. BUT when he calls me, and i say "i'll call u back" he'll say things like.."please, i really want to talk to you." he also always asks me if i'm hooking up with other guys and tells me im the only girl he's hooking up with. and yesterday morning i got a missed call from him so i called him back at night on his cell phone and he canceled my phone call!! (i'm assuming because it rang 1 1/2 times and then went to his voice mail)
WHAT SHOULD I DO??? should i confront him about his intentions?? i don't neccessarily want a relationship with him but i hate the feeling as though i'm getting played. and i won't fully let myself like him because i'm scared of getting hurt. i'm just not used to this...usually when a guy likes me...or claims to, he doesn't throw all these mixed signals. my friends think he's acting like this because they think he already thinks that he has me...so it's not neccessary for him to call all the time cuz he knows i'll always be there. I KNOW IM OVERANALYZING THE SITUATION...BUT IT'S HARD NOT TO. I JUST REALLY NEEDED TO VENT. SO WHAT DO U GUYS THINK???
so fast forward 2 years later and my bf and i broke up for good and steven moved back.
i didn't even know he did move back until i was with a mutual friend of ours and she told me that he had moved back so we hung out with him. a few weeks later he called me and told me how he has always had feelings for me and that he was very happy to see me. i told him i felt the same. so we hung out again...more personal this time. making out...talking about the feelings we had for each other. he admitted that while he was gone he thought about me a lot and the reason why he never really pursued me is because me and that other guy were involved.
so anyways ever since that talk we have hung out a lot and we used to talk almost everyday. (this was about a month ago now that we admitted feelings for each other). THIS IS THE PART WHERE IM VERY CONFUSED--like i said in my last post he always says "i love you" but in a light-hearted way. and he'll sleep over and we'll cuddle all night and pretty much act like a couple and he'll tell me how much he likes me and how he has never felt so comfortable with a girl. but then we'll make plans and he won't call (i confronted him about that, so he hasn't done it since) but now he'll say he'll call and won't until a few days later. or if his friends are around he'll hardly go near me. and when i call him, he'll act really wierd with me. BUT when he calls me, and i say "i'll call u back" he'll say things like.."please, i really want to talk to you." he also always asks me if i'm hooking up with other guys and tells me im the only girl he's hooking up with. and yesterday morning i got a missed call from him so i called him back at night on his cell phone and he canceled my phone call!! (i'm assuming because it rang 1 1/2 times and then went to his voice mail)
WHAT SHOULD I DO??? should i confront him about his intentions?? i don't neccessarily want a relationship with him but i hate the feeling as though i'm getting played. and i won't fully let myself like him because i'm scared of getting hurt. i'm just not used to this...usually when a guy likes me...or claims to, he doesn't throw all these mixed signals. my friends think he's acting like this because they think he already thinks that he has me...so it's not neccessary for him to call all the time cuz he knows i'll always be there. I KNOW IM OVERANALYZING THE SITUATION...BUT IT'S HARD NOT TO. I JUST REALLY NEEDED TO VENT. SO WHAT DO U GUYS THINK???
