I'm so frustrated

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Registered: 05-05-2003
I'm so frustrated
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Fri, 08-06-2004 - 11:40am
Why is it when you meet a great guy- he has a girlfriend? (or wife) Cannot the heavens just leave ONE man single for ME?? SIGH...

I met a bunch of new people when a friend of mine visited with her bf, he used to live in my town and introduced me to some of his friends. So I meet "Jon"- really nice guy, lots of fun to be around-find out Jon has a wife and twins at home. Ok, then there's "Tom"- Tom is super cute and really feel comfortable with him, I know he'll be an awesome friend to hang out with, he has a live in gf. And then there's "Dan"- smart, good looking, successful, he's been with the same girl for 10 yrs. ACK!!!! They do have one single friend but... he's younger, and a stoner- which I don't want.

I swear I am destined to be single forever. WAHHH LOL

When I left my son's dad I kept hearing, "oh, you're so young and pretty you'll find a great guy in no time." That was over 3 yrs ago, and all I do find are guys who only want sex or guys who have gf. And I'm not willing to get together with a guy who has a gf either, that's OUT of the question...

What do I want? I want a guy who "I" consider attractive, who is patient and a good conversationalist, who makes me feel beautiful and needed. Someone who is a hard worker, don't care what kind of work, someone who respects and loves his family and who likes kids. I don't think those things are unreasonable?

Photobucket

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 4:04pm
alison...

Pianoguy was about ready to buy you a plane ticket to "The Pine Tree State" after reading your post. You sound like a lady who knows what she wants. Unfortunately, you don't have a profile...and it's a bit difficult to determine the age, height, and type of man you want.

You definitely have views concerning a man's character...and what you're willing to accept. BUT...you need to give us a little more information about ALISON! You're choosy about the man that YOU consider attractive, but believe it or not...the pendulum swings both ways!

Since you seem to keep connecting with men who are "attached", do you think you might be "looking for love in all the wrong places?"

If this is the issue...why not do a little volunteer work or make yourself more visible to us in some way? Coach a male basketball team, perhaps? In other words...parlay those "athletic skills" you've been born with...and make yourself a valuable player to a single person who would like to get to know you better?

Pianoguy



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Registered: 05-05-2003
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 4:54pm
Pianoguy..

My profile? I am 27, have a four year old son. I work hard for a small company. I like spending time with my friends and family. I would love to say I'm an adventurous spirit, but I'm quite the scaredy cat LOL. I feel that I am a helpful, usually positive person who loves to laugh. I love to read and watch movies. I love long walks on the beach, camping, fishing, that sort of thing.

I don't intentionally meet only attached men. I was merely pointing out that I was introduced recently introduced to a bunch of guys, and they were all attached, so I'm feeling that that is my luck lately. There is a really nice guy at the video store I go to that I could see myself dating- but he too has a gf. And I'm not the type to *hit on* an attached male.

Thanks for the suggestions, I guess I just need to mope today LOL

Alison

Photobucket

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 4:55pm


unreasonable? not at all... but you do know what you want & you are pretty specific about it. You know how shopping is sometimes harder when you have a very specific list of qualities in mind? but eventually you do find what you've been looking for.

Same goes for "mr. Right".He's out there. You will eventually find him.

just don't give up hope & keep looking..