Im starting to like this guy but...
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| Wed, 02-15-2006 - 11:53pm |
I´m beginning to like this guy. He is very cute, good looking, nice person. One problem, he works for the same company as I am, eventhough we work in different places for the same company. He is younger than me. I mean he does not work in the same building as me, he works in the company branch office in another town, so that is why we dont see each other everyday, I just see him when he has to visit the main offices for work issues. Last weekend I saw him because there was a social company activity and he was there, we talked a little more than the first time I met him. Now we speak to each other with more ease, a little bit more like pals, but I still have to get to know him more of course, because Im just in this new job for 3 months. Im starting to like him but I know he is a coworker but like I said he does not work in the same office as I am, he works in another town in the branch office so I dont see him often, I keep in touch with him by email, phone or messenger, when he calls the office for work issues and we say hello to each other.
Yesterday since it was Valentines Day and also Friendship day. I gave away chocolates to all my coworkers and they thank me for it, because noone has ever given them anything on Friendship Day. I also send this guy a chocolate for him and also for the people who work in the brach office (just 2 people work in the branch office besides him). Today the guy called at work for some work issues and he thanked me for the chocolate I sent him, he told me something like: "so sweet from you, thanks, very thoughtful, nice gesture. That is my favorite chocolate". At first when we first met he called me by my whole name, now he calls me by my nickname, as the rest of my coworkers, who already know me.
He is so cute and nice guy.

How can I let him make the next move if there hasnt been at the moment not even one move? I mean we are just getting to know each other beause we are coworkers and I have been working in this place only 3 months. He does not know me yet in a personal way because there hasnt been any good chance to sit and talk about ourselves, we talk almost in daily basis thru the phone but for work related issues only, not about our personal lives.
But I do want to get to know him better, let him know that I can be a good friend in a subtle way. I have treated him so far as coworker because we are coworkers the difference is he lives in another city, that is a minus thing I know. He is a very nice guy, It seems that way.
I will see him again personally on March 4th because all the employees have to take a Customer Service seminar and he has to come to downtown to take it as the rest of the employees, so that day I will see him personally on the seminar.
Remember, you're a new employee. Three months is very early and you really need to focus on your job first and foremost.
What I would do if I were you is to continue to be friendly with him and take things slowly. Don't rock the boat at your new job. For all you know, he's probably just being friendly and polite.
DO NOT make the mistake of pursuing this guy as he may see it as you harassing him. A friend of mine mistook a guy's friendliness as something more and she pursued him on the job relentlessly and he ended up trying to get her fired for sexual harassment.
Be friendly and polite but always remember to be professional and do let him take it from there. If he doesn't then it's probably because he's involved or he wasn't as interested in you as you thought he was.
Be patient.
I know I have to take things slowly, Im trying to do so, Im continue to be friendly and polite even on the phone when we talk to each other, I try to laugh and smile even on the phone when I talk to him. So will it be too forward to give him a a present for his birthday? His birthday is March 7th ( I know all my coworker´s birthday as part of my job to inform whenever is coworker´s birthday in order to buy a cake and celebrate at the job) This guy´s birthday is March 7th, but like I said before he works in another city so it is obvious he wont get a cake or anything becuase he works in another town, that is why I was planning to send him (by postal package) some chocolates for his birthday. I know he wont get anything from other coworkers because I repeat, he does not work in the main offices in order to get a cake and celebrate with everyone. He can get a birthday wishes by phone or messenger from other coworkers, but to receive something on hand I know he wont get it. So I was thinking in sending him some chocolates, I think chocolates are not a very forward gesture, I mean they are just chocolates, Im not sending him a rose or a heart or something more compromising, that I wont do because I dont want to be too forward, just simple chocolates. I think it will be a nice gesture dont you think? Or do you think he will believe those chocolates have another meaning? I mean I dont want him to think the gift means something else, it is just a gesture from a coworker that is what I want him to believe, nothing more than that.
What do you think?