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| Thu, 10-06-2005 - 1:31am |
I have been seeing this guy for two months now. There is mixed advice out there about how long should you wait until you have "the talk". Well, this past weekend I was at our local bar with two of my friends who are a couple. The guy I have been seeing was there. We didnt spend the whole night all over each other like my friends and most other people seem to do. My friends were not impressed by my guy. Everyone has been saying that I am putting up with too much. (He has issues with calling me on his own, although he does it sometimes, he has issues with returning my calls and lately he has been spending more time with his boys rather than me. I know that I have been spending too much time with him, I want to spend every free minute with him or at least have him in bed beside me when I go to sleep.) After I got all these comments from people, including my friend I wrote this guy a letter saying that I would like to know where I stand. If he isnt ready for a relationship thats ok, I would just like to know where I stand. I also added that he is the only guy I want to be with but I might consider going out with other guys if he doesnt want to be with me. I told him that I was making him cookies on Sunday, he said that he would call but then didnt. So on Monday I dropped off the cookies at his house with the letter I wrote. Because he was at Monday Night Football he wouldnt have gotten the letter until Tuesday.
Im not a very patient person. And I miss him already. He has to move and I know of a possible place but I dont know if I should call him or not? Should I just ignore/try to forget about him until he calls? Or can I call him but not say anything about the letter? I dont even know if he got the letter!
If the advice is to wait for him to call me, how long should I wait before I either give up or try and contact him?
Im not sure that the letter I wrote made sense. I dont know if I got the point across. I want to discuss this with him.
What should I do? Wait? Call him? I do know his schedule and could leave a message.
Please Please Please HELP!

First, it is unfortunate that you wrote that letter, I would have advised you to have a face to face discussion so you could see his reaction.
I'd give him a call and see what he has to say.
Good Luck
You are making a lot of demands and putting a lot of pressure on this guy. You don't want to go to bed at night without him? It's only been