inexperienced

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Registered: 12-31-1969
inexperienced
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Thu, 07-15-2004 - 4:12pm
Hi. I am 18 years old and have recently started dating this incredible guy. We had been close friends for the last year and a half but stareted dating recently. He has told me that he wants to take thigns slow and has been very respectful of my boundaries. The thing is that I am very sexually inexperienced and seeign as he is older he is much more experienced. I don't think he realizes how inexperienced I am because we've never really talked about it. The other day for the first time he fingered me, it was very uncomfortable for the more part, I am confused I thought it was supposed to feel good. I understand that it may be because I am not used to it but will it get better? Antother thing is that I didn't return the favour, reason being that I don't exactly know how, and it does seem very appealing to me but I don't want to leave him without. What do I do?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
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Thu, 07-15-2004 - 7:28pm
If you're not comfortable talking about sex and confiding that you're a virgin, then I don't think you're ready to be sexually intimate with him. Do you know how to take care of yourself? Show him what you like, it's sexy. If you yourself don't know what you like, how can you explain what's hot for you? Not everyone is the same. Also, if you're uncomfortable about things, then you might be having a hard time relaxing. It's not easy to have fun when you're anxious.

Some guys are happy to be first, others prefer someone experienced...don't lie. Decide how far you want to go, if you want to give him your virginity, tell him so and let him make it special for you. AND DON'T FORGET TO USE PROTECTION.