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| Mon, 10-03-2005 - 2:30pm |
I am interested to find out if anyone has been on the non-receiving end of infidelity- meaning has anyone been involved with a married man- and what happened. I am curious b/c I just started sleeping with a close collegue of mine after months of temptation building up. (Not to mention- we work all day and night together- 6 days a week- I see him more than he sees his wife) The catch- he is recently married. We have a definite connection/ chemisty and he has mentioned to me that he is not totally happy in his marriage- yet he does love her. The funniest part about it is that the day she went away for a business meeting- no more that a few hours after her plane took off- we were in bed together- and it didn't stop until the night before she came home. Is it just curiousity or is it something other than just sex?

There is a board at ivillage devoted to those having affairs. You should check it out and they can answer all your questions.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlmyaffair
<< The funniest part about it is that the day she went away for a business meeting- no more that a few hours after her plane took off- we were in bed together- and it didn't stop until the night before she came home. >>
Funniest part? What's 'funny' about sleeping with a married man? Seriously, you can't be serious about saying the "funniest part???"
Please check out the affairs board. Better yet, LURK on the Betrayed Spouses board for a dose of reality, k?
Becaus you know how hurt his wife is going to be?... he will do the same to you....Cheating is a realy cruel and disrespectful thing to do to someone.
Ninety percent of the time they don't leave their wives for the other woman. And when they do, most of the time it doesn't work out for long. He was tempted by you for a long time and yet managed to get married? Sounds like a really confused guy or one who is a definite player. Why would you want a guy who would say marriage vows to one woman and then sleep with another?
Temptation is no excuse for cheating. Everybody is tempted at some time or another and they just say no.
The other poster was right. If he will do it to her, he will do it to you. And it's a very common thing for a man who just wants sex to say he is not happy at home. Many times, that is a big, fat lie. You are involved in a mess and you will end up hurt along with two other people. Spend a good amount of time reading both the Betrayed Spouses and the Affair boards, and believe what you read. You are headed down that path.
I speak from experience. I had a year-long affair with someone I had known for years. Guess what? I haven't heard from him in nine months. He decided to say with his live-in with whom he fights so much. His friends have verified they do not get along, but he has been with her 8 years and he is still with her. Be careful, honey.
Are you seriously attracted to a man that would sleep around on his new wife? I'd worry less about him and more about what you think of yourself.