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interested in newly divorced man
| Wed, 07-05-2006 - 3:54pm |
I dated a man 7 years ago and it didn't work out. I recently ran into him again w/some mutual friends at a bar and we did some small talk. He is recently divorced. His friend told me he still likes me and wants me to call him. I asked why don't you have him call me instead? His friend said that he's shy and low-confidence as of late. My question is should I call him? And if I do, will I be considered a rebound? (since there is obviously still a physical attraction when we danced together that night I saw him). I've also always been intrigued by him. What should I do? any advice, comments?

I would call...*once*. I'd aim for a time when he was unlikely to be home, so you could leave a message with your number and put the ball in HIS court.
How long as he been divorced? I'd shy away from dating someone whose divorce hasn't been final for at least a year.
Sheri
clouds77...
Pianoguy's suggestion:
Why not set up a "lunch date" in a public place? This way the 2 of you can chat, but leave in separate cars when you're finished?
Hopefully...you can keep things "casual" at the beginning? Few divorcees (male or female) like to feel "rushed" when it comes to letting another partner in their lives.
But give us time...and we'll usually "come around?"
Pianoguy (who is divorced, but is also STILL SEARCHING for the right lady)
As a soon to be newly divorced women.. I say call him once and then leave it at that...
I know for myself.. i'm not looking to get into a relationship for at least six months or longer... I need time to heal my heart and to work on my inner self.. this may or may not hold true for this guy.. It's a lonely world out there when you are newly single and it would be so easy to fill that void with someone but i'm wise enough to realize that this is a recipie for disaster..
I see nothing wrong with having lunch or something with this guy and developing a platonic friendship with him but tread carefuly on the other stuff.. someone is bound to get hurt..