Interested Today, Gone Tomorrow

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Registered: 09-23-2006
Interested Today, Gone Tomorrow
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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 1:56pm
I've been dating this guy for about 4 months now - wow, I suppose it hasn't been too long to as for advice. Anyway, the past few weeks, he's been very attentive towards me - more than I've ever seen him do. Called 3 times a day just to check up (I was traveling for work), he didn't leave my side during my bday bash, made future plans to spend time together...then all of a sudden, he disappeared (well, stopped contacting me). He has a tendency to do this (so he tells me), but if someone were interested, they would make an effort right? I sent him a text and a few hours later gave him a call - no response, so I just stopped trying after that. I normally do the "three times the charm" bit, but for some reason I'm saving my last attempt to contact him. I'd hate for another "no response." I know he has guests over, but it takes two seconds to text or call back. Am I just wasting my time with this guy? Or I should just accept that he just doesn't respond sometimes. I guess I just answered my own question...so I suppose what I'm asking for advice on is...any insight on what you might do? My head is so cluttered with different emotions, sometimes hearing the thoughts of others helps me put a perceptive on things.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 2:33pm

I would *not* contact this guy again. I know it is very frustrating and confusing to have a guy "disappear" on you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 2:47pm

Aw, I totally get you, girl.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 6:36pm

"This is

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2006
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 6:36pm

For so many women in your position..and there are many...the big question is "why?"

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 8:49pm

I know! LOL

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2006
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 9:47pm

It's funny that you posted this because

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 10:12pm

I checked out your blog and read your Ghost Story. Could I ever relate! A very similar thing happened to me lately ... the "oomph" was there on both sides, I knew it, but the guy ghosted. I think we all owe it to ourselves to listen to our "Little Voice", as you did. Great blog!


iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2006
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 10:32pm

I think when the oomph is there for both people, it makes it suck even worse!

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 1:29pm
How long has it been since you heard from him - a day, two days, a week?
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Registered: 09-23-2006
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 1:58pm

As of today, it's been nearly 4 days.