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| Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:36pm |
Then all of a sudden a get a letter telling me that there can never be anything between us because of the distance him living in belgium me in Portugal and that maybe in a year or 2 things would get better, but all e-mail contact and phone must stop because I was making him unconfortabel. I was really very upset and told him that i was only his friend nothing else and I would´nt write anymore.
When he comes on line he usally sends a kiss but now he does´nt but he does when he goes off I asked him why he said that I wanted something he could´nt give but the ending kiss still comes on.
Do you think I am in much of hurry and he is scared and I should let off a bit or do you think he is playing with me. How should i treat him from now on he carries on teasing me that he went to australia in a day to see his girlfrinen then laughts out loud that he is only teasing so I do the same. I am quite confused since I have grown to love him. Do you think he needs space to sort out his ideas? please advice me on this matter?

You deserve better.
Because I love him a lot and care what happens to him I told him that I hoped he would be very happy but I thought she was playing with him and if she intended to pay back she could have started to do so long ago , he agreed but on the other hand is always excusing her actions.Well he had´nt phoned me for over two weeks we ended the conversation with me telling him that he should´nt have led me on if he was thinking of someone else, he said he was sorry but the last thing on his mind was hurting me, and it´ did´nt mean anything was coming out of his feelings for this person, who he has´nt seen since last year.
I know he trusts me to have told me these secrets, today he went on holidays for 12 days to the south of France. We ended our conversation with me wishing him a super holiday, this morning surprise of all surprises he phones me telling me not to worry about him that he would take care and that the 12 days would go by very fastfor us to be on chat again.
I wonder do you think he is testing my friendship and he is confused about everything or is he playing with my feelings. when he told me about the girl i was real bitch his reply to this was one moment you are sweet and loving the next bitchi.
Please give me some input on this situation do you think I should carry on being his friend and play along and see what comes out or not I do love him a lot, repeating myself sorry.Maybe during these 12 days things will become different and he will change towards me maybe even miss me,, thanks for the advice really need it
You said in the first post that he suddenly wanted you to stop all contact with you. I think it may be because he did find a girl to be with and didn't want her seeing your name in his message box. Now he's telling you about some girl that owes him money. I don't really call that a secret, as you refer to it. You were right to voice your concern about her not having paid him back any of the money she borrowed. He may have been played by this girl and that's his own problem.
I don't believe this guy is a good friend. I think he doesn't have your best interest at heart. He's trying to see how much you will put up with. You may love him, and that's fine, you can love people and not have anything to do with them. Some people thrive on having a hold on someone, and he seems to be this way. If you are unavailable to him, how does he react? If he calls you again on his trip, don't answer the call- or if you do, say you were "just on your way out the door, great to hear from you, hope you're having a great time, talk to you later." When he comes back, take your time responding to emails from him, if at all. You need to focus on those around you and not worry so much about some guy on the computer.
Thanks for your advice and please give me some more of your wonderfull input.