internet girlfriend!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2005
internet girlfriend!
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Sat, 12-17-2005 - 11:06pm

hey everybody!
I have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now. He is one of the nicest guys i have ever meant and it has been a good relationship. At the beginning, he mentioned to me that he has a friend that he talks to on the phone and he told me they met on the internet but they live in different states and have never met face to face. He had been talking to her a little over a year when I had met him. I really didnt think anything of it at first. But i noticed he mentioned her from time to time and he even told me that he made a cd for her and sent it to her in the mail. I didnt think anything of that until he told me some of the songs on the cd and they were all love songs. That made me a little curious how often he talked to her so I was bad and snooped though phone and I found a bunch of text messages to her and was calling her baby, and honey, and sexy....etc. This was on thansgiving when i saw this and he also wrote, "Im so thankful to have you in my life baby love you lots" So I have been doing some thinking and Im wondering if I should be worried. I know it sounds like high school stuff here and I keep telling myself that I shouldnt be worried about someone he has never met and I do believe him on that. I dont think he is cheating or anything. I keep trying to convince myself that it is a innocent flirty friendship and just a fantasy of his. But I keep driving myself nuts about this espeically since my last boyfriend had a long distance friend that he cheated on me with. I just dont know what to think about this one. What do you guys think?

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Sun, 12-18-2005 - 7:49am

If you want to know what is going on between the two of them tell him that his friend sounds like an interesting person and you would love an opportunity to speak with her yourself.

If he freaks out at that idea then you know exactly where you stand.