Internet "shopping" but in relationship
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| Wed, 09-28-2005 - 11:22pm |
opinions please...
OK guys...I need help here.
In a relationship with a divorced man three kids (22,not with him, a 16 year old boy living with Dad and a preteen girl that lives with mom.)We spend most of our free time together, either with family (his and mine) friends, etc..I like all his family and he likes mine. My daugbter 20 even likes him which is a miracle, she doesn't like a lot of folks.
WE have been togehter since Jan 2004..and gradually spent more and more time together. The summer his son went for a week to the beach with some of Rick's relatives. While there Rick asked if I wanted to stay the week..well I did. commuting to work (only a few miles) then asked me to move in. I have been in the process of doing that. My daughter is moving also.
Here's the problem: He had ( and still has ) an old profile on a dating site. No subscription but I know he still goes online and scouts about some (I know becuase a coworker spotted him (I have his photo on my desk)
We are joining a church, moving in together and basically I am treated like part of his family. So why is he "shopping???"
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No I purposely NOt asked for a good reason. His ex was a clingy vine person and I know he could not stand that. He married her when he was young, he got her pregnant..did the right thing by her I think. Tried to make it work, the best possible. I do not think he ever really loved her. Stuck by her due to loyalty and the children. She broke up the marriage anyway, had an affair.
He has been super cautious and we went quite slowly till the past six months. I do have trust issues but i do not wish to jump the gun. That is why i am not ready to rock the boat
I don't think anybody is going to be able to answer why boyfriend is Internet shopping except boyfriend. I don't think asking is necessarily going to "rock the boat", it's a valid question that I would definitely get answered before you move in with this guy. If he is actively dating other women you may want to know about it.
He may just be passing time in which case you could politely ask him to take down his profile.
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This is something I feel you should ask him about not in an accusatory way but, honey, the weirdest thing and explain that your co-worker recognized his pix at an online site.