intimacy discussions

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Registered: 05-01-2013
intimacy discussions
Thu, 07-25-2013 - 8:13pm

I have been dating a guy, we have been on 5 dates. We text everyday and message on FB. When the dates are over he walks me to my car and he says what should we do on the next date. Its obivous he likes me. We hug for a long time and laugh. He hasnt kissed me and I hate making the first move. I give him the oppurtunity to make his move, but he doesnt. 

We went to the movies and he rubbed my arm, arkwardly (his nervousness is cute). He later texted me he gets nervous when hes attracted to someone. Should I take the first step?

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Registered: 04-13-2007
Sat, 07-27-2013 - 7:17pm

I think you should take the step. or make the openings a little more obvious. but first be sure you will be ok with doing that and that you won't feel bothered by the fact you did it down the line. People have different ideas on the first move and sometimes changing those views is hard. but in the end if he seems worth it don't let that stand in the way. Some men have a hard time getting up the nerve for the first move. they have to be sure about everything.. "how will you take it, will the move be memorable or suck, where, when..."  it may take a little while if you wait for him

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 07-29-2013 - 4:32am

  Here is what you do.

1.  Go buy a 2x4

2 apply said 2x4 to gentleman's head

Men do not take hints

so ask him or just do it.

3 drag home and cook chicken soup