Intrest level?

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Registered: 11-13-2006
Intrest level?
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Mon, 11-13-2006 - 5:06pm
Ok so a little background. I'm a guy (early 30's) and wanted an opinion that came from Women. I just met this girl (26 yo), she picked up on me while I was out at a pub. I went with her and her friends to another bar and ended up at a small party at her friends house. Stayed the night and made out, a little petting and such but no sex. I'm fine with that. Went out with her the next weekend and had a good time. I met a bunch of her friends, which were all cool. My question is her interest level. She said she had a good time, but continually spoke about up and comming events that she is attending to me and her friends. She asks one of her friends that is a guy to go with her out of town this comming weekend to party. I met the guy and he is cool, I got a vibe from watching her interact with him that she could be interested in him. Fine really, I hardly know her, I just don't want to be the guy on the side that is clueless to her real intentions. I hate it because I don't want to be 'that guy' that always asks what she's doing and with whom. I figure that if there would have been anything she would have been with him instead of me. What kinds of things can I look for to judge her interest level? She texts me, calls me but never for that long, just a quick hi. While I was out with her she was constantly on the phone setting up her social calendar. I feel that I may be just the 'inbetween guy'.
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Mon, 11-13-2006 - 8:04pm

It seems that this woman is a girl who is into everyone and anyone. I'm going by what you posted. She made out and did a little petting with you the night you both met. You both went out the following weekedn and had a good time hanging with her friends. She was on the phone the enitre time and later on arrainging social appointments and events that would happen in the future. She asked a male friend of hers to go with her to some other type of event AND you said she looked interested in him. She texts you a bit and moves on. Her behavior could be indicative that she's into casual dating and if sex/cuddling/petting and such is in order she'll take it.

IMHO, you aren't the "in between guy", you are one of the many guys she's casually dating.

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Mon, 11-13-2006 - 10:15pm

Thanks for the reply. I think that you're right and I'm not really looking for the casual tyupe of relationship. I think that the next time I talk to her (which will be when she makes the effort) I'll just ask her straight out. I have no time for the games nor the guessing. If she wants something to do with me then she is going to have to show it. It sucks because I dig her, but then again she isn't the only one out there.

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Tue, 11-14-2006 - 2:08pm

Do YOU make an effort to talk to HER?

Have YOU asked her out on a date?

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Tue, 11-14-2006 - 5:09pm
Sure did. I called and set up the dinner. After thinking about it, I think that I am the one being crazy. Why? because I hardly know her. Yes, I think she is great but not to the extent that I'm gonna bend over backwards and change my world for a 'maybe'. I've got other things I can do. I think in my relationship past I've been too quick to accept bad behavior just because she is beautiful. That just tells me that I don't have a problem finding beautiful women, just acting right about it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-14-2006 - 5:13pm

Well, then, she knows your interested and I also think that taking multiple calls while out with you was quite rude.

You're right not to accept bad behavior. Beauty fades - rudeness is forever! lol!

Best of luck to you.

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Tue, 11-14-2006 - 5:19pm

Thanks. That's kinda how I feel about it too. Sometimes it takes the encouragement of others to confirm your own feelings that you try not to accept.

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