Irritated, confused maybe?
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| Sat, 08-19-2006 - 7:05pm |
I don't know what I'm really feeling right now other then irritated-I think.
I'm the same girl that posted on here earlier in the week about my guy friend who broke up with his ex a year ago and for the last 2 and half months she's been calling him every couple of weeks, she convinced him to come over on Monday and they ended up sleeping together and now he's in love and wants her back!
I think it's a bad situation considering the things she's done to him, cheated on him and has a restraing order on him! But hey what do I know? I've never been in a relationship so I have no idea what he's going through. We talk on the phone all the freaking time, he calls me quite a bit and I will call him as well. He talks about her all the time. How she makes his head spin and that no other ex he's been with has done that, and that she's his bestfriend, ect, ect. I just wish in a lot of ways that he and she can get back together so he can get what he wants, be happy and leave me alone. I can't be the one to say "Leave me alone" I do tell him if he wants the ex back then he needs to get his butt in gear and do something about it.
You know what I guess irks me and confuses me is for the last 2 and half months of us talking all the time, every day, and hanging out several times. It means nothing to him! Not even on a apperciation level! He talks about how when he was with his ex, she's the only girl that liked to do the things he does. Him and I have quite a bit in common. We've gone drinking together, we play poker online all the time, we can talk (even though sometimes I'm quite...that's just because it's in my nature), we get along, have an understanding of each other on certain things and situations. In the mean time last Sunday he meets some chic from match and they had fun (which is cool and good for him), but he was just telling me the ohter day on the phone that, if things work out with my ex and i in the next few months then that's great if not then I have this other girl as a distraction! I'm like gee thanks. I probably sound like I'm jealous and yes in a way I am, but I guess the answers are becomming clearer as far as...all I am to him is a shoulder to cry on when he's frustrated, when he's done something stupid, when he's bored even!
A lot of it is my fault because I should have kept the conversation at a certain level, but truth is I enjoyed tallking to him, I enjoyed his company, I really enjoyed that hang out buddie!
So like I said I wish him and his ex would just hurry up and get back together and just leave me out of it and leave me alone! It sure does suck when you think you've found a pretty cool person, friend and come to find out slowy that it's not!
I just don't really know what to do
Sorry that this post sounds all over the place and confusing. I could use some insight, I'd apperciate that!

Actually, you are doing great you just don't know it. This is exactly why we take the time to know someone before we agree to anything. This man has shown you his true colors, he doesn't regard you as anything more than someone to talk to about his favorite obsession, his exgirlfriend.
Wish him well on his journey back into his crazy lover with the restraining order's arms and then tell him you are really really busy and can't take his calls.
I wish him well also.