Issue with DBF's friend

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Registered: 12-26-2005
Issue with DBF's friend
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:16pm

I've been dating a guy for 4 months now. We've been through ups and downs in getting to know each other, but we do care about each other.
My problem right now is this, I think that one of his good friends does not like me. After every time they go out and do their guy thing, my DBF acts distant and makes remarks as if I'm not measuring up or something. Then, I noticed once when we were all out together, my DBF was telling his friend what kind of car I drive (a nice one), and his friend goes, "Well, this girl here (girl he was with at the time) drives a NICER car and she has all this money." (which of course I do not)
So I haven't yet asked my DBF if this guy does not like me and says things that might try to encourage him not to date me. It made me feel rotten to hear that b/c what difference does that make? I am not the kind of person who dates for status, money, cars, etc.
But it sucks b/c every single time my DBF has been around this guy, he starts talking to me like I'm not doing this or that and just really distant.
Any thoughts? Should I talk to my DBF about it or just try not to let it bother me? Should I try to spend more time with his friend with us, too, to let him get to know me better so he'll see I'm not so bad after all? Would this be a bad thing?

TIA
svetlana

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Registered: 01-24-2004
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 9:52am

Hi...

a. What does DBF stand for? I think I got the bf straight...boyfriend.

b. Well if DBF means boyfriend then: "Only a total freakin' wuss would let his friends talk him out of being with the girl he loves ‑- even if the woman in question is a grade-A bitch. If he's that easily swayed, you don't want to be with him anyway."

You're not dating your bf's friends, you're dating your bf, so who cares what they think about you. If it really bothers you, ask the bf casually if his friends have a thing against you. If it's something you can change then do it. If it's not and they have a negative opinion of you leave it be and be confident in your man that he'll stand by your side.

Good Luck,
Nina