Is it a good sign?

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Registered: 06-27-2004
Is it a good sign?
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Fri, 11-04-2005 - 9:55am
I went on a date last night with this guy...im 23 hes 34 and a celebrity here in PR...and during the date he kept refering to a second date etc...so i got home and he called me and told me that he had a lot of fun, that i was great and mentioned a second date again...Is he trying to be nice or do you guys think that he liked me? Is calling right after the date a good sign or is it just normal?? Sorry if im asking stupid questions, im just wondering.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-04-2005 - 11:33am

amarilisnjoel107...

Pianoguy has 2 questions for you:

"DID YOU ENJOY THE FIRST DATE ENOUGH TO GO ON A 2ND ONE?"

Depending upon your answer, you can choose to do a follow-up...or just tell him you're not interested.

Then ask yourself a second question:

"DOES HE REALLY LIKE ME FOR MY PERSONALITY AND APPEARANCE...OR IS HE EXPECTING SOMETHING ELSE?"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Fri, 11-04-2005 - 1:18pm

<< "DOES HE REALLY LIKE ME FOR MY PERSONALITY AND APPEARANCE...OR IS HE EXPECTING SOMETHING ELSE?">>

PG, wouldn't that be an impossible question for her to honestly answer, after just one date? I mean, she's not in the guy's head.

amarilisnjoel107 - go with your instincts. If he SEEMED like he was genuinely interested in you for you, and you had a good time on the date, then by all means, go for it.

As for "is it a good sign?" ...ummmm, generally, I'd say if a guy is mentioning a second date while on the first and calls you to arrange another, how could that be a BAD sign? The only "bad" thing I can infer is that it may seem a little anxious or needy to call so soon. But, that may just mean that he had a really nice time and wants to make sure you meet up again.

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Registered: 06-27-2004
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 7:38am
great advice...now, he called me last night and he wanted me to have breakfast with him today or tomorrow and i told him that it was too soon to go out again, since i just broke up with my bf a month ago and it would be to soon to introduce him to my family...(in PR if girls wanna be going out with someone the family has to at least meet the guy)so he understood and asked me that if i could go with him would I? and i said yes and he said thats all he needed to hear and well he sounded like he really liked me when he called etc.i mean he didnt say i like you but he said i was beautiful and that he liked my personality and wanted to see me again. Im thinking he sounds to anxious and is moving way to fast. He can get any women he wants, hes famous, handsome, muscular, tall, nice, etc. and he told me that hes looking for a serious relationship, not a one night stand and since im not all over him like most girls would be, i think that he liked that. I dont know, what do you think? sorry if its confusing!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 8:38am

hi starbuck!

Pianoguy's response was based on how the man behaved during the date....which really wasn't completely explained.

I certainly don't want to 'pour cold water' on any potential relationship with my advice or suggestions, but one thing about women I've discovered (through several ivillage message boards and thousands of personal responses) is that the majority of them usually KNOW by the end of date #1 if a man is truly interested...or just 'out to get some!'

While first impressions can often be confusing, I think both sexes can usually tell if the person they're spending time with makes them relaxed enough to be themselves...or if they're uncomfortable during the entire first date!

And that's why I responded the way I did!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Sun, 11-06-2005 - 6:20pm

Why are you so worried about this situation, so early in the game?

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Registered: 06-27-2004
Sun, 11-06-2005 - 7:50pm
Thanx! youre right! im exagerating!! thanxxxxxx! great advice!
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 11-10-2005 - 1:44pm
if he didn't want to go out with you again, he definitely would not have called! guys who dont' want to continue dating usually just fade away; they don't court you.
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