It just isn't enough
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| Sat, 02-11-2006 - 10:56am |
Well after my last boyfriend I told myself that I wouldn't date anyone that didn't make me feel important or loved, etc. Basically my ex never took me out, we always just "hung out" at his house. He made me feel like crap most of the time. I haven't seen anyone since him ( 6 months ago) and wouldn't allow myself to like anyone with the fear of getting hurt. Well I started working at a restaurant a few nights a week and began hanging out with Todd. He hasn't asked me out and we have just hung out at his house, etc. I spent the night at his house, thursday, sunday, tues, wed. He would call to see what I was doing, if I wanted to come watch the basketball game stuff like that. Then to find out he had the night off work and had been drinking with the boys for the past 4 hours and I'm not dumb wanted me to come over and give him company. Ok I started to feel like crap after that and visions of my last boyfriend and how I wasn't ever given what I deserved started to show up. I worked with him last night and he acted just immature, teasing me, not really saying much etc!! I mean hello we have just spent 4 nights together. Needless to say I felt like crap, I got off at around 10:30 sat at the bar had a drink and a bite to eat. I was talking with a friend but he was in the other room the whole time. I went to leave and saw that he was still there, I stopped and said I thought you had left. I sat for another 15 minutes and then went to leave he got up to and I said, "Going home?" He said yeah see ya tommorrow and that was that.
So I know my answer, yeah he might think I am cool to hang out with, he likes "being" with me, but he just isn't that into me and I deserve someone who is 100%. I guess I am just angry at myself for letting this happen again and I won't let it go on anymore. This is where I need help. Do I act cold to him at work tonight, do I bother saying anything. Do I just move along and ignore him while still being friendly.
Thanks for the help!! It juse hurts time after time, but at least now I recognize and won't let it go on.

I wouldn't treat him any differently than any other co-worker. If you're nice to others, be nice to him. You know where to draw the line and to not allow him to take advantage of you, so just don't let that line be crossed. I wouldn't go out of my way to purposely treat him coldly because that to me, would mean he won. What I mean by that is if you act differently because of a person, that means they have power over you, know what I mean?
Good luck tonight. Let us know what happens.
Kerry