Is it love?

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Registered: 09-29-2004
Is it love?
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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 2:34am
Ok, so my boyfriend and I just got back together after a two-month break. Before we broke up, i had told him I loved him, but apparently he didn't feel the same. He keeps telling me that he cares for me a great deal, and even talks about a possible future together, but he doesn't tell me that he loves me. He broke up with me because he got scared (he's a committment phobe), but says he's dealt with his issues. I still love him, but now it's getting really hard not to say anything. He knows how I feel. What should I do?
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 09-29-2004 - 2:28pm
I think it's only fair for him to let you know how he does feel. If he's not *in love* with you yet, then that's fine, he can still care for you and want to be with you. Pushing him to just say "I love you" isn't very fair. But if he's truly afraid of committing, then you might want to end things before you get too far into it again with him. If your long term goals aren't matching, then they probably still won't a year from now.

Alison

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