Is it Love or Desperation?

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Registered: 12-02-2004
Is it Love or Desperation?
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Thu, 12-02-2004 - 10:45pm
I have a boyfriend and he lives in mexico. We've been together since April, but in September he had to go back to be with his sick mother. We talk once a week and we're always online together. I am going to visit him this christmas, since I just found out that he has to stay until next june. Now many of my friends are saying that I should forget him because we'll never work, but I know he is the one for me and I can not imagine my life without him. I dream about him, and most importantly he loves me back. He actually loved me first. My closest friend says that he is just trying to get a green card from me and I am just desperate. Is she right, or should I stay with my love?
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Registered: 10-12-2003
Fri, 12-03-2004 - 6:46am

I'm not sure if he's trying to get a green card from you or not because I'm not sure of some details. Your friend may be right but then again, some people only see the negative so you'll have to weigh that one.

Are there any plans for him to come back to the US? What's the reason your friend thinks he's just using you? How often did you see him when he was here? Why is he staying until next June and why doesn't he visit you after Christmas? Your answers may help shed some light...

As for the LDR, I'll leave that to some other folks who have more experience with it. Terry--you out there? :)

 

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 12-03-2004 - 10:01am
I can't speak for you or your bf, but I just wanted to mention that I know quite a few single women who met bfs in Mexico. These men simply "adored" my American friends but eventually every single one fizzled out b/c each and every time it turned out that the men merely wanted a way into the U.S. They are willing to do or say anything, and they can keep it up for quite some time so long as the hope is there that they will succeed. Just a word of warning.