is it me or am i missing his clues?

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Registered: 07-14-2004
is it me or am i missing his clues?
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Wed, 07-14-2004 - 9:36pm
Hi ladies.. I’m hoping you can help me out with my dilemma. I met this guy through a matching website two weeks ago and we’ve started communicating through IM (instant message). He seems like a nice guy, nice enough to hang out with I think. We already talked on the phone thrice. I asked him twice to meet up for coffee; the first time he said he had a friend visiting and staying in his place for a week (which he later told me was his ex whom he's good friends with) and the second time he said he could meet me but he can’t drive too far as he is sick. I told him I didn’t want to drive far either and would rather meet him somewhere within my county, which he said is understandable. So, we cancelled that date. We’re an hour-drive and two counties apart. I don’t want to ask him for the third time and seem too eager though I really like to meet him in person now and find out if he is my type, or if he likes me. The past two days, I hardly catch him online and when I do, he doesn't initiate the exchange of instant messages anymore like he used to. What should I do? Should I ask him to meet up again for the 3rd time, wait for him to ask me, or forget the whole thing and move on. Help please...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 9:55pm
It sounds like he isn't all that interested at this point, unfortunately. That's pretty common with online dating. I would move on...he might still get in touch with you, but if he does, I'd let him know that you would prefer to get to know him in person rather than through IM'ing and ask him to get in touch when he's ready to meet. But don't hold your breath.

Sheri

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 12:10am
Too many excuses from Mr. Excuses...I wouldn't waste more time in this guy. Probably, he's dating/IM more women to see who he is interested in. The fact that he's not initiating things online or IM youu shows he's not interested enough to continue your conversations or even to drive and meet you. Don't send an IM and don't ask a third time, one was enough. Men put their eggs in several baskets, you should do the same.