Is it normal thing?

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Is it normal thing?
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Tue, 08-02-2005 - 10:23pm

Hi everybody,
I have a question to ask, it is been bothering me little bit and if anyone can help that will be great.

I have been dating a man for almost three monthes. We are having a great time everytime we get together. And he told me he is happy with me. There is something bothering me little bit I don't know if I am exagerating or I am right that is he didn't give me his phone number or never ask mine. We e-mail each other all the time and he told me he want to see me every saturday.

Is this normal thing?
Should I talk to him about it?

Thanks.
Rube

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 10:29pm

Hmmm...I think I'd wonder why he never called, and why only Saturdays...have you been to his place? Is there a chance he could be married or otherwise involved with someone else?

Sheri

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 10:47pm
I have to agree with Sheri. There is something very odd about his not calling you or asking you to give him your phine number, and mostly, not giving you his number. It definitatley sound like there is a significant other. The one fact is she can't snoop in his e-mail, unless she has his password (which I doubt). But phone calls are very dangerous when it comes to hiding the other woman from your S.O.

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Tue, 08-02-2005 - 11:13pm

First I want to thank you for returning my e-mail. I have never been to his house and I did ask him if he is dating only me and he said yes. And that he told me he didn't date any woman for 5yrs. He doesn't seem to have another woman but I never know, I have seen so many wierd things before from other relationship I had. So that make me think I have to becareful what I do.

What do I do to find out what is going on before we go to far?
Rube

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Tue, 08-02-2005 - 11:24pm

At a minimum, I would ask him why he hasn't given you his phone number, why he only emails you, and why you only see him on Saturdays.

He can tell you anything at this point, but you don't really have a good basis yet for knowing if he is honest.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-04-2003
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 12:11am

Yeah I'd flat out ask him too. Sounds like something is rotting in Denmark to me with this guy.....way too shady. I am sure he will be full of excuses. If he does give you excuses, I personally would end it. If you feel compelled for more proof than I would suggest maybe do the following ...say: "I have an old high school chum coming to see me Saturday, let's do something on Friday (or another day) instead?" If he back pedals...say "oh ok...well we can decide on another day (any day but Saturday!) give me your number so I can reach you because my ISP is down (or say your computer is being repaired) and I can't check my email." That will smoke him out. ;-)

If he doesn't come clean or feeds you excuses...LOSE HIM!!!!

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 12:09pm
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 9:13pm

Hi,
Well it will be three months next week since we started dating. He told me were he works and he told me about his family little bit, he told me about few of his friends but I never met anyone of them or he never met mine either. We have been dating different days of the week he just mentioned last week he would like to date on Saturdays too. So I don't know what to say or were to start.

Thanks.
Rube

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 10:23pm

Can you clarify...I thought from your first post that he ONLY wanted to see you on Saturdays. But this post makes it sound like he wants to see you on Saturdays in addition to other days. Is that correct?

If so, that's a much better situation than I originally thought. I would just ASK him about the emailing and phone number though..."hey, Mike, I was thinking and I realized that you never call me, you always email. Why is that? I'd really like it if you could call instead of email at least part of the time." "Hey Mike, I realized today that I don't even have your home number. What is it?"

Obviously if his name's not Mike, you would not call him Mike ;-).

Sheri