is it ok to ask a guy out

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Registered: 09-24-2004
is it ok to ask a guy out
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Fri, 09-24-2004 - 9:03pm
hi! i have a question that's been bugging me and i never get the answer i wanted. So, I'm hoping you could help me or give me some ideas what to do. Ok....I met this guy on line and we've been exchanging emails quite awile already and on his emails to me he always mentions that maybe we should plan on meeting or talking over the phone. I wrote him back many times that he just have to let me know when the best time is or to call me so we can plan. However, he never tells me anything about it but he still mentions about this if he sends me an email. Then, I started chatting w/ him on line and told him that I'm hoping that I'll get a chance to meet him soon and he told me that we'll plan something but he never he doesn't say when. So, do you think it's ok if I initiate of asking him if he's available to grab a drink/coffee instead of waiting for him to plan about it. Do I sound desperate if I do that? Please enlighten me about this situation. Thank you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-25-2004 - 12:33am
This is pretty common behavior in the online dating arena. For whatever reason, some people just seem to want to email endlessly, rather than actually meet in person and *date*! I assume at least some of them are in relationships and just testing the waters. It's frustrating as hell, but you need to accept that it happens.

I would send him an email that says something like, "I really prefer to get to know someone in person. Please call me when you're ready to set up a time to meet". Then don't respond to any emails that don't involve setting up an in person meeting.

Sheri

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Registered: 09-15-2004
Mon, 09-27-2004 - 7:35am
gurl....online dating service sucks. How old are you? Do you want to find a date in person or talk to a typing messages to a non-existing person who you will never have a chance to meet. Pick one. Plus: if you are asking if you should ask a guy out? You have pride? Keep your pride safe and allow guys to chase after you. IF you are a attractive exotic looking lady then you wouldnt have any troubles. Right.
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Registered: 09-15-2004
Mon, 09-27-2004 - 7:46am
Do you have pride? Girls dont ask guys out. Guys do that. Not you. But if you are willing to take the risk go for it. if you get rejected. that is life!