Is it ok to date a friends brother?

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Registered: 12-17-2004
Is it ok to date a friends brother?
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Fri, 12-17-2004 - 4:24am
One of my best friends has a brother that is a little older then me. He is sweet , kind and very attractive ok he is HOT!!! The point is he is like me but as a guy, we both share the same values and things in relationships. Ok my friend wants him to be happy and she wants us to hook up and get to know each other. I guess the question is how to tell if he is interested at all. So i told my friend to ask him what he thought of me he thinks I am sweet and cute, but he says he is kind of dating someone and it isn't fair to her. Ok well he just moved back from out of state and this girl is far away and he never talks about her and my friend said he isn't looking for a relationship and things pretty much look like they are over for him and her. So the main question is he usually can talk to anything with his sister but when she brought it up he kind of acted nervous and didn't want to say much about it. He told her that he doesn't know me but don't worry he won't do anything. My friend thinks he likes me because he always brings me up and never said that about anyone before. I tried to persue him but he has been having some issues with his phone. My friend keeps telling him he should call and he says don't push him he will do what he wants. I guess the question is. How can I tell if he is interested could it be he doesn't want to say anything to his sister because he doesn't want her to be uncomfortable or can it be he is just not intersted. Is it ok to date a friends brother or not. And if so he is shy how can I make it known. When I replied he said he thinks I am sweet is this a friendly sign or one of interest. I like him and have thought like this for a few years.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sun, 12-19-2004 - 2:25pm
Hello kiki, welcome to the board!

 
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Registered: 06-20-2004
Sun, 12-19-2004 - 7:22pm
Wow...I know exactly how you feel. I think you just need to slow down a bit and give him time to adapt to something new and better. Give him a LITTLE space and see what happens. Don't hesitate to keep in touch and see what he's thinking just don't do it so much. It just sounds like he need to over come his nervousness and sadness right now. Plus added the fact your his sisters friend...maybe it's just tough for him because he doesn't want anything to happen to you and your friend. One tip though...if you two do end up hooking up try a little harder to keep in touch with your friend...I know how it feels to be left in the dust...My sister went out with my friend...It was a little odder because I use to like the guy but I didn't care...anyways I just wish he would keep in touch more...ever since they went out we kind of been looseing touch but well always be friends...So I wish you the best of luck and have a merry Christmas
Dragonsbabyblue