Is it okay for me to call him to say hi

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Is it okay for me to call him to say hi
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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 1:56am
I met a man at the grocery store a year ago and we dated for two months. While we were dating, not exclusively, he would travel out of town for conferences and not call me to say hi. Something inside me told me that he was going to see someone. Because of this, one day I decided that I was not going to return his phone call on the same day he called. I called him 3 days later and did not hear from him until 3 days. Immediately after, we both discontinued contacting each other. I see this guy regularly on the way to work and we always wave at each other. Well a week ago, I ran across him at the coffee shop and he asked me out to coffee. I met him for coffee, which we had a nice conversation. He asked me if I would like to go out with him to a baseball game, and I said yes that I would like to go. He had a surprised look on his face and I then said again yes, I would like to go to the baseball game. He told me that he would call me next week, which I gave him my new number. Also, he told me that his number is still the same. I then asked him to write down his number. It has been a week and he has not called me with a date on when we will be going to the baseball game. I am trying to figure him out because he has not called me yet. I am wondering if I could have given him the wrong number or maybe he has changed his mind. Since he did tell me that his number is the same, is it okay for me to call him to say hi. I don't want him to think that I am not interested because I have not called. The reason I haven't and don't want to call just yet is because then I won't know if he is truly interested. Please help me with some advice.

annna7

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Sun, 06-27-2004 - 1:42pm
Thanks to you all for your responses. It's 11 days since we had coffee and still no phone call. I am so glad I did not call him because then I would have thought he was interested. I can now say for sure that he is not interested and a flake. His loss because I am a great person and have a lot to offer; and my gain because I don't have to settle for what is not best for me.
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Thu, 07-01-2004 - 5:05pm
Hi Everyone and thanks for replying to my post.

This guy that I was talking about never called me to ask me out. This morning I ran across him at Starbucks, he joined me for coffee, and asked me if I had plans for lunch tomorrow because he wanted to take me out to lunch. I said that I did not have plans and yes that I would join him for lunch. He also indicated that he was out of town Thursday through Tuesday for a work related conference. The reason that I said yes to lunch is because my intention is friendship only. From past experiences, he did not always follow through, which I now not to allow myself to get all wrapped up into him. I have nothing to lose going out to lunch on a friendship level. I am confused. I don't know where he is coming from on wanting to have lunch with me as to wether he is really interested in me. I feel as though if he was really interested, he would make the time to call to say hi. I would truly appreciate your comments. Take care and have a great day.


annna7

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