Is it over? Please advise

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Registered: 03-13-2004
Is it over? Please advise
Sat, 09-04-2004 - 6:21pm
Hi, 3 weeks past and I have not heard from him. Last time we met, I was upset but I did not mean to show it to him. I just felt bad and cried very little and did not talk to him for 20 minutes because he criticized me on the slip I wore. He said it looked like Grandma....I was so sad when he said that so I could not hold my feeling and cried. He asked me what was wrong (We were in the car and driving to the movie),...and called my name...but I did not reply him because what he said hurt my feeling and keeping crying but did not let him see my face (I turned my face to the other side)....after 20 minutes...I talked to him....and no more upset...I actually did not say anything back to him when he said that to him. Then,.....he just drove me back home and we did not go to the movie.....but he said that he was mad at me because I did not talk to him for 20 minutes. "What did you think if someone called your name and asked you the reason and you did not talk to him? Did it mean that you upset at me?" That's what he said. I said to him that I did not get upset, I was just so emotional when he criticized me on the slip and it hurt my feeling,...so I did not talk to him because I just felt so bad and I needed space. He said that now he was upset at me and he wanted to go home to think about us.

But when he drove me back to the parking lot, I did not want to go back to my car and I tried to stay in his car....he kept wanting to ask me out his car and he wanted to go home. Finally, he said he could sit in my car and stay for a while. Then we both sit in my car....also, I wore a diamond ring on my right finger and he criticized me again he said that girls just wear that ring when engage....I told him it was a gift from my mom.....

Then he still wanted to leave and I tried to hold his hand because I did not want him to leave....but he said "get off"...."stop"....so I was scared and let him off. Then I cried in my car...and he came back and sit down in my car and comforted me until I stopped crying. I COULD NOT HOLD MY FEELING AND DISAGREEMENT WITH THE WAY HE TREATED ME. HE NEVER CALLED ME since we dated for 6 months ( only first date)...and after that just TEXT MESSAGES....I felt so bad about this but I tried to be patient and waited if thing changed....but NO.

I TOLD HIM THAT WHAT HE DONT EVER CALL ME BUT ONLY TEXT MESSAGES....and he said that HE"VE BEEN TRYING TO HAVE FUN WITH THE TEXT MESSAGES" but for me he seems not to want to deal with phone calls and he DOES NOT WANT TO TALK WITH ME. THEN I TOLD HIM THAT" I THINK I LOVE YOU AND I AM SO SCARED"....

After that day, 3 weeks from today I have never heard from him.....DO YOU THINK HE DOES NOT WANT TO SEE ME ANYMORE? IS OUR RELATIONSHIP OVER? DID I DO ANYTHING WRONG? I FEEL SO SAD AND BAD ABOUT MYSELF.

I don't speaking English naturally but I work and talk with people at work....I don't think I have problem with the language border....but maybe he does not want to talk with me because of this language border....if this is and he does not want to talk with me ....I FEEL MORE BAD ABOUT MYSELF that he does not respect me....sometimes I feel sad about the border of language and this maybe the reason why he does not want to hear my voice?..... PLease advise...