Is it too soon to tell him how i feel?
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Is it too soon to tell him how i feel?
| Tue, 11-09-2004 - 12:04am |
I have been seeing this guy for a little over 2 months now. I am quite shy and so is he. My friend indicated to me that he is sometimes confused if I like him and whether we are just dating casually. We have go on quite a few dates already and held hands. I know both of us are serious people. I thought that he knew how I feel. I am celebrating his birthday with him this week. I think this can be a good time to let him know that I really like him. Is this a good idea? Is it too soon?

I can relate to your situation,as I've been seeing a very sensitive
sweet but shy fellow. He was attracted to me and met him as my waiter in a local]
Italian restaurant,gave me extra attention,complimentary appetizers,desserts even
when dining with my mom and dad. Pat who liked my parents exchanged stories,
,jokes and to me lots of hugs,hand touches,always escorted me out of the restaurant.
I'd feel such strong attractions,Pat would squeeze my hand,but somehow never asked me out.He finally made a move,sadly after dad's passing away to cancer. My mom,sister,brother decided to go to the Fornaio restaurant after the wake. Patrick rushed to seat us,saw our emotional state,offered condolences,stunned by my loss,kissed me on cheek and hugged my mom.At end of evening he asked to go to dad's funeral mass,also for my address and phone#. He whispered to me how he wanted to ask me sooner,but thought I'd refuse. His long work days allows us infrequent dates,but long phonecalls.He's quite
busy and activein charities,football coaching,and visits his mom who is ill
in Calif.. When we meet,we talk and share many common interests,family backgrounds,
relationships with siblings,friends,etc.. for hours. There is alot of hand holding,
hugs,but he's shy,prefers kissing in private,usually when we're driving home. I can
tell he wants more,but never is the aggressor. I'm shy too,after 2 months,and many
dates,we've never said how we feel.I want to tell him I'm crazy about him,but would
prefer he tells me first. I think if two mature adults feel the laws of attraction,whether
he hasn't mustered the courage to say those words,then be spontaneous and tell him perhaps
over a nice dinner. I'm 40 something,never married,let a couple of good men get away
due to my oldfashioned ideas,Catholic upbringing, that a man should be the initiator in expressing,the I luv yous. If you wait too long,he'll never know how strongly you feel
toward him. If you're dating freqently that is sign of true caring or he'd be seeing
you more infrequent,making excuses to be busy,etc.. Honey,life is too short,and
sounds like he's a sweet,caring guy who wouldn't be intimidated by your declaration. Just
do it before he looks elsewhere,and I believe his birthday will be extra special for
both of you.Best wishes, Christina Bellina