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Is it worth it?
| Fri, 06-18-2004 - 3:50pm |
My boyfriend & I love each other very much, but my family doesn't want me to be with him. My sister became infuriated with him when she found out he exposed me to the risk of pregnancy. She never told my parents, but she did tell them that he "is not a good person" & "did something terrible to me". They are trying to get her to tell them what he did, but she knows it will kill them. They took a hint from her & now they abhor him. Now my whole family dislikes him and my mother told me that she will never accept him & will make my life a living hell if I continue to see him. My father won't let us be alone together if we are at my house, and I have to keep him away from my sister completely as to avoid an enraged brawl. My boyfriend wised up & we stopped having unprotected sex. He is willing to endure the abuse of my family if it means he can still be with me, but I don't know how much more I can take. I have always been very close with my family & don't want to lose their affection over one boy, but I love him so much. Should I keep going w/ the relationship until the anger blows over, or dump him & feel terrible? Please help.

Unprotected sex is not something that is "done to you"...unless it is rape, you gave consent. Which means you are just as responsible as your partner. You tell him to be protected or the answer is no. In my opinion it is up to YOU to know what your family values are and decide whether you believe in them and accept them as your own. If you do not, then you have to be ready to deal with the difficulties and disapproval that will bring on.