Is it worth the risk?
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| Mon, 08-09-2004 - 1:00pm |
Becasue of these problems, I have a really hard time flirting for fear of rejection. I know that if I am rejected, it will never be as bad as I make it out to be in my head; however, I have a fear of being outgoing because I don't want to be shot down. I also have this fear that when I am shot down, the guy thinks I am stupid to have ever thought I had a chance with him.
Which brings me to a guy that I have a huge crush on. I am reluctant to do anything because of the above-mentioned fears. I have known him for about seven months, and I think he may like me, too. I only see him at the bar where he works. I kinda want to make some sort of gesture so that he knows I like him. My friends want me to give him my phone number, but if he doesn't call, I would feel awful about myself and not want to do anything like that again.
My question is: Is it worth the possible rejection, etc. to find out if he likes me?
Please help?

With this guy that you like, you may need to just drop a quick flirt before you walk away so there's no time for a response. It may pique his interest if you do something like that and the next time you go to talk to him, he may be more open.
The biggest piece of advice I have is: You will never know unless you try, and the WORST he can say is "no thanks". Keep things in perspective.