It's been 2 years.............??????

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-05-2003
It's been 2 years.............??????
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Sun, 05-02-2004 - 10:31pm
Hello, I need alittle advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and things are awesome. Given we have our usually couple fights (not too often) and work our our problems out together.

My boyfriend is 29 years old and I am 27 years old. We live an hour away from each other but still manage to see each other 3-4 times a week. I have 3 children from a past marriage and he has never been married and doesn't have any children.

I have been talking to my boyfriend this weekend about moving in together. He straight out told me that he is not ready. He said that he loves me and that I do everything the way he wants but he is just not ready. I asked him if he EVER wanted to get married and he said he does and he does see me in his life years from now so the made me feel better.

My question is: Do men take longer to make this kind of commitment? If he is not ready than I can understand that as long as I know that it WILL happen than I will wait for him to be ready. I am just asking to move in together, I am not asking him to marry me now. He told me that it has nothing to do with the kids and I hope that thats the truth.

What is the normal for couples to date before moving in together? I don't want to push him.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 10:38pm
What games?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 10:41pm
What you need to defend is the DECISION you are about to make that will impact your children forever.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 11:02pm
With all due respect, why not just let it go at you giving her your opinion and giving the OP the freedom to choose what she wants? This board is about opinions, not forcing others to agree with you...

Can't we all just respect the differences in our views? Can't well all just get along?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 11:04pm
I could agree with you if children weren't involved.

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