It's In His Kiss... what do you feel???

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Registered: 03-25-2006
It's In His Kiss... what do you feel???
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Wed, 06-14-2006 - 10:24pm
I've been dating a great guy for about a month and things are going great. We get along, he makes me laugh, I get along with his siblings, and i absolutely adore his friends, I couldnt imagine an easier person to get along with. But I dont know how I am supposed to feel when I kiss him?? Most times I don't feel anything, and it's not a feeling of kissing my brother. I could just do without them. If not for this tiny little fact our relationship would be great (he absolutely adores me- and he tells me often).
So tell me!! How do you feel when you kiss your significant other?? Butterflies, Whoopdies (as i call them) knots, tingles? what do they feel like?? I only ask because I am not sure if what i feel is nervousness at him kissing me (we've kissed many times- so its not that i am nervouse) or if it's something else...
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Registered: 08-13-2004
Thu, 06-15-2006 - 1:48pm

hmm... i've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months. i'd say the first month or two, i got crazy butterflies when i kissed him (and also really turned on sometimes.) my stomach would just flip. then a few months into it (and even now) the kisses are still great, but butterflies are rare (usually only if he takes me suprise or kisses me in a very different way, i.e. presses me up against the car before we go somewhere.)

i wouldn't worry too much. by this point, you're probably thinking too much about it DURING THE KISS ("why don't i have butterflies?") which, in turn, diminishes any chance for them at all.

just relax. if you have fun with him, don't worry about how your tummy's reacting =)

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 06-15-2006 - 10:14pm

Hmmm. I definitely think you should feel *something* when you're kissing someone you're romantically involved with, particularly in the first month. Have you ever felt that rush when you're with him? Have you EVER felt it kissing another guy?

My ex-husband was never much of a kisser. But he turned out to be more than satisfactory when we got around to the "rest" of it...

And now I'm older and I've been with my BF a while, so kissing him is pleasant, intimate and still arousing (he's a good kisser, and so am I), but my stomach doesn't "flip" that much any more. You know, all that crazy passion of early love and infatuation eventually mellows out to something more *comforting* as the years go by, anyway.

I guess it depends on how important a really sexy kiss is, to you. If you feel like you're missing something when you kiss him, you are. Sexual chemistry IS important. You shouldn't be with someone who doesn't satisfy you.

But if everything else is going wonderfully in your relationship and you feel sufficiently attracted to your guy to continue down the romance road with him, I think it's worth a try. It could be that the best is yet to come.

Good luck!

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 8:56pm

Have you done anything besides kiss? How has that been? Is it that he's not a good kisser? Sometimes a guy has to be shown...


There are things to evaluate here but kissing to me is extremely important, something you can get lost in, so try to see if it's something that can be improved. If not, well, at least you'll know you've tried.


Have you kissed other guys? What have you felt with them? Any tingles?

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Registered: 06-07-2006
Tue, 07-25-2006 - 4:13pm

I've been dating a guy for about 2 months now, and whenever I think about our kisses or how he kisses, my heart drops to the floor. I LOVE kissing him. Yes, he is a good kisser to begin with, but I've never had anyone mimic the way I kissed him. Slow, soft, hard, fast, open, closed, toungue or not. It's phenomenal. And I know myself, if my SO is NOT kissing me the way I want to be kissed, I'm not sure I can proceed with a relationship. That's just me. Kissing, to me....well, it's everything.

He absolutely drives me wild with his kisses. Even the small ones.

BTW, I got chills just writing about him kissing me.