I've been SABOTAGED!!

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Registered: 04-04-2008
I've been SABOTAGED!!
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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 2:01pm

Hello!


I have a situation I'm hoping to get advice on. Back in late November 2007 I made friends with a woman who turned out to be pure EVIL. Here's the story. I really liked this guy, let's call him 'David' and she really liked his friend, let's call him 'Evan'. Evan couldn't stand her and wanted nothing to do with her. David and I were getting closer and moving toward a relationship.


Through being friends with this woman, I told her (through email and over the phone) the ups and downs of me and David (like all girlfriends do). David grew a dislike for this woman because she would stalk Evan, his best friend, and basically get on his nerves to the point where Evan would tell David all about it. One day this woman wanted to come over to my apartment while David was there. YEAH RIGHT! I wasn't about to have them under the same roof. I ignored her calls and texts and told her I'd get back to her later.


Boy, did she go ballistic. "No man should come between a woman and her friends. Why is he controlling your life? Blah blah blah!!!" I continued to ignore her. I posted an anonymous blog about how annoying she was being and she went on a rampage. She took everything I emailed her about David when I was upset at him, all the personal things I told her about my relationship and posted a blog on myspace all about it. She cut and pasted things I said and made sure David would read it.


David and I are a couple and he hasn't left me because of the things he read. However, he constantly brings it up and it's causing a rift in our relationship. I don't speak of that woman at all until he brings her up and I need to know how to get him to get over this stupid situation.


Thanks for any advice...

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Fri, 04-04-2008 - 4:39pm

What a nightmare!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2008
Fri, 04-04-2008 - 4:55pm

Hi ladyveedapoet,


welcome to t he board!!


yucky situation to be in!!

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 04-04-2008 - 5:22pm

If she goes to a lawyer, then she needs fully expect a counter-suit.

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Registered: 04-04-2008
Fri, 04-04-2008 - 9:28pm

Great advice! I love the idea of coming to each other instead of letting the situation get muddled amongst our "friends". My boyfriend and I communicate very well and I don't see why we can't get through our issues together. As for the lawyer, I thought about that. I'm not willing to cough up the expense or go through the trouble just to get a myspace blog removed. I sell poetry books through MY myspace page

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 12:14am
You are assuming that OP will just sue blindly without first learning if she has a leg to stand on.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 11:26am

Then you must have missed this:


<I posted an anonymous blog about how annoying she was being and she went on a rampage. She took everything I emailed her about David when I was upset at him, all the personal things I told her about my relationship and posted a blog on myspace all about it. She cut and pasted things I said and made sure David would read it.>>


It was anonymous, but obviously the other woman knew who posted it since she retaliated.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 2:39pm

It seems as though the psycho woman started the harassment and her comments were in retaliation, but anonymous.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 2:48pm

Good luck with everything.


"she put a link up on her site to direct people to MY site..."----> you posted anonymously and she had to set herself up to make things NOT anonymous.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2008
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 4:06pm

Thank you once again. I do realize that it

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 4:34pm

I dont see what you did as wrong or childish.

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