jealousy

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Registered: 03-17-2004
jealousy
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Tue, 11-01-2005 - 5:32pm

I'm posting again because it says message is deleted.

I have fallen for a male friend. He doesn't have any romantic interest in me at all and has told me so in the past. Lately, we have been hanging out about once a week and he likes my friendship and likes being around me. Just a side note: We started off romantically but he lost the flame for me and have remained friends since. That was almost a year ago. I, however, have always had a romantic interest in him and have not been able to let go even though I have dated other guys.

We went to a party this weekend. He came as my guest. He was meeting some of my friends for the first time. Some of my friends thought we were a couple because I don't normally bring male friends to a party. He was by my side at the beginning of the party because he didn't know anyone. Later, he ended up talking to a girl for two hours towards the end of the party. I got real jealous. I didn't act like a jealous person during the party. I just kept my distance from them and gave him his space to talk to her as a regular friend would do. When we drove home we didn't even talk about his conversation with the girl. I didn't know how to bring it up. I don't even know if they exchanged contact information. Should I bring it up? Should I let him know that I was jealous? Because it is still bugging me. I think he knows that I have romantic feelings for him. We never talk about people we date outside of us, which I think is a little odd for our friendship. I think for a true genuine friendship we should be able to talk about this kind of stuff? Please help.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: faithhopelove86
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 1:22pm

this is ticklish because you want to take it to another level - he has told you he doesn't. So if you can't be with him in a platonic way perhaps you shouldn't spend time with him. Yes friends talk about their dating life but in this case it's difficult because you want him to be your dating

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