Jealousy / Paranoid

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Jealousy / Paranoid
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 10:09am
Advice please??

My boyfriend currently has this "friend" who I really don't get along with. We are civil to each other when out, but that's about it. The other day I threw a surprise party for my b-friend for his birthday and she had ended up finding out about it. She was calling us all white trailor trash and such (really mature as she is younger than me and a mother) I found out that he calls her a lot (3x in the last 4 days). I admit that I am jealous and probably a bit paranoid about her, but just knowing my history with her, I don't trust her. (She's nice to my face, but trashes me when I am not around)

I really feel that I always have to compete with her. I don't want to feel like this and don't want to tell my b-friend not to talk with her - but it is so tempting. I feel like this may become a major issue in our relationship if I don't deal with this soon. Any thoughts on how to get over her?

I have seriously thought about trying to be friends with her( being the bigger person) and maybe that would clear the air. Maybe I wouldn't feel so paranoid. But then I think that it might make me more paranoid. Help!