"just friends" so confused
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"just friends" so confused
| Sun, 06-27-2004 - 10:17am |
My boyfriend decided that he doesn't have the same strong feelings he used to have for me anymore, so i guess you could say he dumped me, but he always says he is confused and he doesn't know what he wants. We had been going out for over a year. About a month before he "broke up" with me, we were involved in a car accident and i got my teeth knocked out. He always says i haven't been the same since, but I've had a root canal, and thearpy for my hand, so It hasn't been easy for the both of us. So he decided to break up, but he is still totally unsure about it. He always says he doesn't know what he wants. He says stuff like well if it was meant to be then it was meant to be. I am just so confused over that, I don't know what to look for, when someone says that, what do they mean? He will always ask me well what are you doing tonight, looking for guys? He is so concerned about what I am going to be doing. The last thing I want to be doing is looking to meet guys. So I said I still want to be friends, So he wants to call me almost every day, or every other day, but its so hard on me, and he will want to hug me and say that he is sorry for putting me thru this, but I still don't understand he's reasoning. I feel depressed and lonely. Every morning I wake up and ask myself am I going to get thru this day? Nothing excites me anymore, and I don't look forward to anything anymore. In the back of my mind, I know he still loves me, but doesn't want to admit it, and when I ask him, so you never want to see me again, or go out with me again, his reply is I don't know, I am so confused, "you never know" I can see it in his eyes that he hasn't given this whole sitution as much thought as it needs. Please give me some feedback on what you think. I just don't feel complete with out him in my life.
Edited 6/27/2004 1:32 pm ET ET by designlisa
Edited 6/27/2004 1:32 pm ET ET by designlisa

The auto accident left you with a few missing teeth! But it also left your b/f with a few loose brain cylinders!
He might view your extractions as a way to end the relationship, but Pianoguy thinks this thought has been rolling around in his head for a while.
As hard as it is to read this, your life CAN'T revolve around another human being. And it sure sounds like this is what has been happening?
Give yourselves a 30-day time out period....and don't cheat! If you want to renew something after that, fine! But it wouldn't surprise me if your willingness to "take control of your own life" will yield you a better partner...or at least a few friends who know what they want out of a relationship. BEST OF LUCK!
Pianoguy