Just a simple observation, maybe nothing

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Registered: 08-25-2004
Just a simple observation, maybe nothing
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Fri, 10-29-2004 - 11:01am
My current internet dude, who I have yet to meet after our first failed attempt, has started calling me "hun", within the past few days. It's probably nothing, but I'm trying to understand that terminology usage, since it's becoming clear to me that he has no real interest in meeting. I haven't brought up meeting again or anything. We just chat, plain and simple. I'm still interested in him, that's why he's still around, but I don't want to fall prey to these hidden meanings behind these terms like "hun". I read that Dr. Phil story about the lady that gave 5 yrs of her life to an internet love that was a complete fraud. My situations is far from that, but my caution level is raised.
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Registered: 10-29-2004
Fri, 10-29-2004 - 1:34pm
SOMETIMES GUYS JUST PICK UP TERMS AND DECIDE TO RUN WITH IT. PAY IT NO MIND. IF HE SEEMS TO HAVE NO INTREST IN MEETING THEN IT'S NOT WORTH A SECOND THOUGHT.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-29-2004 - 1:46pm
rockicon...

"Hun" is a term of endearment some men (young, old and in-between) use. More like reflex terminology that they might employ in a conversation.

But you know something? You can "terminate" the conversation and the relationship entirely if you REALLY feel uncomfortable? Then again...so can Mr. "HUN!"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 10-29-2004
Fri, 10-29-2004 - 2:23pm
Pet names...so very confusing. I met a man and dated him for about 3 months. In the beginning he called me "hun" "sweetie" "babe" on almost a constant basis. I took it as a sign that he was interested in me and felt strongly towards me. Afterall, why would you call someone those kinds of names if you are not? It was not until we were about a month into dating that we began going to social situations together with our mutual friends. It was then that I realized this was just the way he talked. He called EVERY woman by a pet name, not just me. I never took it so seriously after that and never read much into it.

I have not personally tried online dating but I know in the beginning when the internet was started it had a pretty bad reputation. Now it seems a very acceptable way to meet people. But I still think everyone needs to er on the side of caution. If he seems interested, but does not want to meet you there is a reason and ITS NOT YOU. Chances are its a wife or girlfriend that is in the picture. Just be careful and DO NOT get hung up on a man that you have never even met.