Just a thought for women to consider
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| Mon, 03-08-2004 - 2:08pm |
Women by nature, like to please. They get involved emotionally too soon and thus get hurt. Man by nature are beasts. They are animals. They don't think twice about the other persons feelings. A man sees nothing wrong with, screwing you and then dropping off from the face of this earth and moving on to their next prey. Its in their nature. The animal kingdom works the same way.
Look at hollywood, some of the most glamorous women, like Cindy Crawford, Hally Berry, Jennifer Lopez, Heidi Klum get pee'd on by their significant other. All these women are attractive, have money, they have everything at their finger tips, yet they can't find a significant other who respects them for being them. Heidi Klum, a gorgeous 32 year old super model, got dumped by a 60 year old disgusting men for a 19 year old. He even left her pregnant and now denies being the father of the baby. She could either sit and cry or just move on with life. What choice does she have.
As a result, us women have two choices. To either be a door mat and have them walk all over you. As a result you will be single for the rest of your life.
Or take charge of your life and have respect. Respect for yourself. Even though we live in the 21st century and the rules of dating are considered ancient. Its still the man who has an upper hand in where the relationship goes. You can raise hell and high water. If he is not interested, he is not interested. Done deal. You can't change it. You can agonize over it all you want but it won't get you anywhere in life.
What women need to do is, have self respect and self love. Love yourself first before you can love someone or someone can love you. Don't be afraid to say no. If you lose him, so be it. He wasn't worth it. Society puts too much pressure on women to have someone as a confidante. However, you need to be your own confidante. Women put their potential mates on a high pedestel. You need to put yourself on a high pedestel first.
Have confidence in yourself. Be secure about yourself and you will attract a potential mate who respects you and is worthy of your time.
In this day and age, young women like us need to learn how to be independent, how to take care of ourselves and educate ourselves. You can't rely on men to do it for you.
I don't want to lecture anyone and I know its a hard pill to swallow however its reality. I will end by saying, Love yourself first, have confidence in your self and your abilities. Be indepedent and then you will attract men who respect you for who you are, for your time and will love you for who you are!!
Any thoughts, don't be afraid to write back!!
Have a great day!!
Some one who learned it the hard way!! :-)
Edited 3/8/2004 2:27:27 PM ET by bigbanana2004

Us women do tend to be giving and want to please and we get very emotional because most men wont reciprocate the same. Not neccessarily meaning that they don't care, but they just don't think like us. It's really confusing and irritating at times, but my advise is also be strong, confident, and love yourself first and then you will see that even though a man can't reciprocate the same actions and feelings that it isn't your fault. And it is his loss when he walks away from a great thing.
And we do not have to accept bad treatment from someone beneath our standards for fear of being ALONE.
But I also hear an awful lot of bitterness in your words. Like your statement that "men are beasts who don't think twice about another's feelings." I think that kind of sweeping generalization is a bit extreme. Of course there are *bad* men who use and abuse women, and there are very decent men who wouldn't dream of hurting anybody. But I think most men fall somewhere in between.... They cross the spectrum of ideals, principles, and lack thereof.
I think it IS safe to say that, as a GENERAL group, men don't place as much *importance* on the sex act as women... meaning, they don't always equate it with love. Men don't readily assume that if you have sex you're a "couple."
But women also have to take responsibility for getting to know the men they CHOOSE to deal with. We need to learn and PAY ATTENTION to behaviors that are typical of a man who is only out out to get laid, etc. Most times, the man will let you know what he's after, if you care to listen and not IGNORE the messages.
Perhaps you have learned all these things by now, the hard way. If so, I hope your experiences have led you to more successful, fulfilling relationships with men.
But anyone who is carrying around a lot of resentment, fear, insecurity and anger toward men (or people, in general) should think about getting some help to deal with those feelings, because resentments will poison your life as an individual and as a partner.
Edited 3/8/2004 3:38 pm ET ET by jilly73
If your wondering if you should call him... The answer is NO.
There is nothing wrong with working on a relationship -- relationships without nurture die.
As for your comments on celebrity relationships, you don't know what happened? Sometimes relationships don't work out, and it is both peoples fault.