KEEP THE FIRE BURNING!!

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Registered: 06-05-2006
KEEP THE FIRE BURNING!!
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Tue, 08-29-2006 - 1:15pm
Hi...Well, I've been on here with problems and all you wonderful ladies have always given me great advise..No real big problem here now....Now I have met the woman of my dreams..We are both in love totally ...After only 2 months of dating..... She has said she cares for me deeply and I her..Background info...She is 45 I am 55...She has an 18 year old son in final year of school...Me, no kids at home...A year ago my wife of 29 years died of breast cancer...My only true love of my life till now............Getting married again seems a little odd since we both are not looking at having kids again...Living together could be an option in maybe another year....My question..I want to be with her constantly but we cannot...How do you keep the fire stooked and maintain the committed relationship when we both cannot be together as often as we would like? At this age companionship means a lot...Of course sex is also important...I just want to do it right for both of us.....Any suggestions from any others with similar plights out there? Texting is Ok...for keeping in touch...But what else works? Thanks,,,,Jeff
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 9:22pm
Jeff, congrats on finding a new love. You're in the honeymoon stage where you want to breath the same air the other breaths..in other words you want to be together all the time. While it's healthy to demonstrate all your love for your partner, don't forget that too much of anything/love could kill a relationship. You can call her often and text and meet for dates and such. She and you will appreaciate it, but don't forget that she and you need personal time and space as well. I'd leave love/romantic notes or invitations and such for her to find. After a long wait to see each other that could be something to look forward to.
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Registered: 06-05-2006
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 12:34am
Lightandbright:: Thanks for taking the time to respond..Your comments are well thought out and very appreciated!! I especially like your idea of leaving love notes around to find..VERY COOL....My life right now is very well balanced and I thank GOD....The road has been a bit bumpy this past year...and one needs to give thanks for what one has..And I have a lot to be thankful for!! I just want to be sure to stay balanced......take care,,Jeff