Keeping It Slow

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Registered: 03-04-2006
Keeping It Slow
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Sat, 03-04-2006 - 3:11pm
I have finally managed to get out of a long, hard, unfair relationship. A man I have been friends with for a long time found out that I had broken-up with my ex and asked me out. I really enjoy the time I spend with him and I would like to be with him, but I am still feeling very vulnerable and lacking trust following my last relationship. Any advice on how to communicate this with this new guy and on how to keep things slow?
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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: lotrgrl
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 4:01pm
Tell him what you said here, straight out. If he's known you and your situation, then he will understand. You can tell him that you enjoy being with him but want to take your time so that neither of you gets hurt as you are as likely to hurt him if you're not ready for the relationship he's looking for. Ask him for patience and time to work through your issues. If you are determined to keep seeing him while you do this, let him know that you want to see him for everyone's sake, you need to take your time.

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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: lotrgrl
Sun, 03-05-2006 - 12:49pm
I'm with vexer... Just take things slow and steady. If you're not ready, it may be time to take a break befoer getting too invovled.
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Registered: 03-04-2006
In reply to: lotrgrl
Tue, 03-07-2006 - 9:58pm
Thanks for the help everyone, It's going really well.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: lotrgrl
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 5:32pm

Be honest with him, tell him what you've posted. right now what you need is friendship. If he can do that, terrific. If he tries to force you into more than you're ready for, well, then that's a great sign right there that he might not be someone to ultimately trust.

good luck

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