kiss of death
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| Sat, 12-18-2004 - 5:44pm |
hello all...
so i've been dating for a few weeks this gorgeous independent woman. Yes, we had sex on the first date...she had not been with anyone for over a year and a half. I don't look for sex on the first date but the animal attraction was just out of control. So we have a lot of sex...she always cums whereas for me and with condoms its more diffucult so she feels inadequate which is soooo not the case.
anyhow, she had mentioned how she likes it when someone is totally into her...but yet now that i have started to fall for her its too overwhelming...she doesn't like PDA's yet she sometimes instigates it...and the calm quiteness of my personality originally now makes ehr wonder if i will always be that way since she sees herself as wild. So, anyhow, we go out last night and it gets a bit akward as she mentions her type which i don't fall under...her take was that i was different whereas my take was maybe she was trying to tell me something...we go back to her place and she wants to just screw my brains out and at 2 am when we are done she has to be up at 8 am and i should go. she knows how hard it is to find parking in my neighborhood and i had just spent the night...but whatever..she orgasms and is ready to go to sleep.
I get the impression that i have become a pushover here and too easy. I am attactive and sometimes that leads to things happening faster than normal...
so i get a call this morning from her to apologize about her comments about her type because she is very attracted to me but she fels overwhelmed and wonders if i will open up more...
so, i want to give some space to this wild attraction. Should i continue to date her?
Or are things like the aforementioned the ways a woman wants to either break it off/or get some reassurance about what the future holds...because i don't want a booty call and neither does she...we both want to date someone to find a good partner as i am in my mid thirties and apparently clueless and she is getting to 30...anyhow...what seemed like this magical thing is starting to unravel...

How about just talking to her and seeing where she's at. Sometimes people will push others away out of fear, sometimes because they just want to. But until you sit down with her and ask her what's going on, I wouldn't decide on anything.
Let her know you like her and see that this could be something special. Give her the opportunity to tell you her feelings. Then go from there.
Hope this helps.
you ended up being so right.
I hadn't sen your message till this morning, but i had done just that...talked it out and it just came down to moving too fast on both our parts...so now we are back on just to enjoy the moment and let that take things whichever way they go...
sometimes i get insecure and what was once confidence is eroded and that affects my ability to be in the moment...
thanks/have a good day
good luck...
I would really try talking first just to warn you...
have fun
Dragonsbabyblue
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