A Kiss Is "Just A Kiss"?
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A Kiss Is "Just A Kiss"?
| Wed, 08-16-2006 - 11:46am |
Is it wrong for a man who was introduced to a woman who claimed to want a solid and serious relationship to assume that even after two dates, in which she held his hand, chose his ensemble and hugged and kissed him, that she wants a RELATIONSHIP? And, is it wrong for him to take initiatie to call when he says he will (she gave him her number, work, home, cell), to call her by a term of endearment and/or to want to send her flowers?
Is he reading into her affection too much, or is this a normal part of corting for mature adults who claimed to want the same things?

I posted to you along these lines on another board, but IMO, it would NOT be reasonable to assume that after only two dates, the person wanted a relationship with the other person merely because she did those things. Rather, I would read that as saying that the person was OPEN to the possibility of *forming* a relationship as time went on.
And I would be turned off, personally, but someone calling me by a term of endearment after only two dates. But everyone's different--someone who's right for this guy would probably be ok with it. Flowers--I could go either way on that, but since you know that she thinks he's moving too fast, I agree with what you posted on the other board about suggesting that he not send flowers yet.
Calling when he says he's going to is definitely a good thing, however ;-).
Sheri
citrisgal...
Pianoguy tried to access a profile on you, but since there wasn't one, he wanted to know if you lived or had family in New England? If not...do you make house calls? :)
HE'D HONESTLY LOVE ALL THAT PAMPERING...particularly the part about the 'ensemble!' The hugs and kisses are a nice touch too! (clears throat) Anyway...on to your question.
Personally...I think affection is wonderful...providing it's genuine with no expectations or conditions attached! The only way to tell is when a couple is completely honest with one another. If there are certain patterns of behavior (or affection) that make either half of a couple uncomfortable...those should be addressed IMMEDIATELY! The reason is...if they're bothersome, they'll eventually come out into the open during an argument!
Having said this...here's something you MIGHT want to think about?
How a man responds to the actions of a woman...really depends upon the man. Some men appreciate everything a woman may do for them...and respond with flowers, dinner or something totally unexpected? Other men will continue "taking" and make no effort at all to reciprocate the lady for her kindness?
Unfortunately, things can REALLY get worse when a woman expects some sort of gratitude from a man...and she never receives it!
Sadly...a "lack of appreciation" is one of the major flaws SOME...but NOT ALL...men possess!
Pianoguy