kissed my bestfriend ,nowtotally messed
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kissed my bestfriend ,nowtotally messed
| Sun, 04-18-2004 - 1:12pm |
hey there
some weeks ago, my best friend and I were alone in my house and we got very drunk and we kissed and had a very very intimate night.He said what was happening was perfectly natural and something that had to happen. The next day we agreed that we needed to talk on this. He said he did not believe that it happened only because we were drunk and he said we should wait and see what happens and how it goes. He also said we did not have to act as if nothing had happened and also said that he knew I could not do such thing. He offered that we see how it goes for a while. Then he started acting very casual and a few days later I said I wanted to talk since I hadnt said anything before. I said I felt awkward ignoring what has happened and he said he did not quite understand why I felt awkward and asked me if that was a turning point for me. Then he said everything that night was mutual thus I did not have to feel bad, it did not have to mean anything or mean a lot of things. Everyday he talks differently on this and he also asked me what we could do if we could not act like friends. He acts so strangely and I hate ignoring all my confused feelings. I think he regrets what has happened. Should I talk to him again because I feel hurt and cannot trust him if we continue this way...:(
I am afraid I feel things for him. THis situations is so bad..
some weeks ago, my best friend and I were alone in my house and we got very drunk and we kissed and had a very very intimate night.He said what was happening was perfectly natural and something that had to happen. The next day we agreed that we needed to talk on this. He said he did not believe that it happened only because we were drunk and he said we should wait and see what happens and how it goes. He also said we did not have to act as if nothing had happened and also said that he knew I could not do such thing. He offered that we see how it goes for a while. Then he started acting very casual and a few days later I said I wanted to talk since I hadnt said anything before. I said I felt awkward ignoring what has happened and he said he did not quite understand why I felt awkward and asked me if that was a turning point for me. Then he said everything that night was mutual thus I did not have to feel bad, it did not have to mean anything or mean a lot of things. Everyday he talks differently on this and he also asked me what we could do if we could not act like friends. He acts so strangely and I hate ignoring all my confused feelings. I think he regrets what has happened. Should I talk to him again because I feel hurt and cannot trust him if we continue this way...:(
I am afraid I feel things for him. THis situations is so bad..

I don't know if talking about this again would prove to be productive but you can try andmake sure that you both are clear-headed (sober) and mature in approaching this. IF, after talking, you feel that there is an impasse, you have to decide whether you want to continue the way things are between the two of you as "just friends", or if it would be better to get some space from each other so you could clearly decide what you want and how you want your interaction with him to be like. (friends? more?)
Friendship, like any relationship involves two people, so it's not just your decision, but his, as well. Regardless of the outcome, if you two are *really* friends, you would respect each other's wishes. But I think more importantly, you have be honest with yourself first.
THanks a lot for your reply porcupine