kissing my crush?!

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Registered: 08-14-2004
kissing my crush?!
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Fri, 09-17-2004 - 3:33pm
hey,

i'm going on vacation with a group of friends. one of them is the guy i really like, we've been emailing back and forth, he's been really glad to hear from me, and me from him. We're all going to meet-up in DC, cause we're all in college. i'm thinking of doing something along the lines of taking a walk with him, and if the opportunity presents itself...of comign straight out and kissing him. i'm afraid to jsut come out and tell him i like him, cause there's somewhat of an age gap, i'm 18 and he's 23...

i think it'd be more rational to tell him i like him, that to jsut come out and kiss him...but how would i tell him i like him!? i've never told a guy i liked them/ asked one out. the two guys that have asked me out in the past wound up as ling term relationships- 1 year and the other 1 1/2 years. so, i have experience in dating and commitment...but not starting to move toward a relationship...

please send me some advice!

-Liz Anne

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Registered: 09-21-2004
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 5:10pm
I think it would be a lot better to find the words to tell him. People are afraid to take risks, because they are afraid of failure or rejection. If you kiss him and he doesn't respond the way you want you will feel more hurt and rejected. It is not as hard as you think to let someone know your interested. You can be direct and say "I really like you as more than a friend and was wondering if you feel the same about me" Or you can ask "have you ever thought of us being more than friends" that way you don't have to disclose how you feel. If he says no you can laugh it off and say "yeah, you're right that's silly. I like having you as a friend." It's funny for someone who hates rejection to the point I'll go into a self-hating pity party; I never had a problem with telling someone how I feel. I guess for me the anxiety of wondering if they felt the same was worse. One I knew even if the answer was no I felt so much better just getting it out of my system.