Ladies - I seen the x at the club tonite

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Ladies - I seen the x at the club tonite
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Sat, 07-31-2004 - 4:28am
Well i went out to the club tonite with a sidekick. Now, for those that know, i dumped my x 5 months ago for cheating on me. She walked in tonite this time with another guy! She sees me standing there distant, and i seen her. She lets go of his hand, and puts both her hands over her head and turns away bending over. She and her new man (different guy from the guy i caught her with) head up to the bar and grab a few drinks

Im kinda glancing at her from the corner of my eye. I walk by her and him. Im 6'5 and im looking past her and him. She touches my elbow, and says hey! I didnt bother to turn or talk to her. I completely ignored her as usual

So what do i do? I went and grabbed some hottie and danced with her. After that, i just continued to dance with all kinds of women in the club (small club). She has her back turned to the dance floor, and he's facing me and talking and kissing with her etc...

I had a blast dancing with alot of hot babes including some digits tonite. She ended up leaving with this guy ( i know this guy from the gym!) I didnt acknowledge his existence either. I just had a great time dancing with other women. I knew this bothered her. Im the confident one, going and dancing with alot of women tonite. Actually more than ever. I guess she couldnt stand the fact and left with him. They didnt even dance. Just stood at the bar and drank beer - losers.

I have this gut feeling that she is going to call me sometime? I dont know why, but she will.

Any thoughts? I was 99% over her till tonite. Feelings resurfaced. I rubbed it in her face, that i could have a great time without her, dancing with other women, while she stood there with this loser and drank beer

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Sat, 07-31-2004 - 4:39am
Bumping into an ex does suck huh! Time heals tho Fab. Soon enough you'll find yourself a great girl to be with and the next time you see your ex you won't care if she had 10 guys hanging off her, because you will have someone who only wants you.

I have to say though, even though 5 months have passed, you might want to consider hanging somewhere you know she's not going to turn up for a while. Just till that sharp, cutting pain goes away.

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Sat, 07-31-2004 - 11:04am
It was suppose to happen i guess? Me running into her with a friend of mind, just like the first time i caught her with another friend of mine. It was meant for me to see i believe.

Oh, she lives some 20 miles away from the club. there are other clubs near her home. i didnt know she was going to be there? For some reason she chose this one right across down the street from me. But the look on her face =)

Seems like she didnt want to see me dancing and talking too other hot women around her?

The frustration

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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sat, 07-31-2004 - 6:03pm
UMM.. sounds like you are the one with the feelings-she had her back to you--the guy was kissing on her, etc. I mean you were the one watching her--I dont see where she showed that she gave two hoots that you were dancing and having fun--sounds like she was into her man she was with to me. And just because they weren't dancing doesn't mean they weren't having their own kind of fun. It just sounds like you were the one hurt
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Registered: 05-17-2004
Sat, 07-31-2004 - 7:36pm
Garbage!


Listen Fab

This chic does have feelings for ya! The hands above her head bending over deal is a sign. The fact that she tried to get your attention by touching your elbow is also a sign!

The fact that she seen you dancing, then turning her back on you is also a sign! Sounds like since you ignored her (good job by the way) she was up allover him kissing him is a tactic women use to get a man jelous for not giving her attention, because someone else is

Women get jelous when they see they're man or previous x dancing and having fun with other females. It does bother them, but they hold it in, and release the drama later

I dont see how you were hurt? Who was the emotional one? Fab or his x? You ignored her completely. I dont see how he was butthurt over her? If he was, he would of been sitting down feeling sorry for himself. Instead, he was on the floor dancing with the chics and having a great time! How is this a sign of someone being hurt? As opposed to a frustration movement, with the hands on head deal, and trying to get someones attention by touching them, and being completely ignored? Now this person is the hurt one

you did a good job man! No women who cheats on you is worthy of your time. Dont give her time or day, which you did. Completely act as if she does not exist in your life. Give them chics a call!

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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sat, 07-31-2004 - 8:02pm
How can my opinion of his reanactment of the night be wrong?? This web site is about different OPINIONS. Makes me wonder if you are a guy cause I am a women and coming from the womens perspective (if it was me in her place acting like HE stated--that would be my way of showing that I didnt care) and fab said the guy was kissing her---Im sure that they were both a little hurt--but it just seems that fab went overboard trying to PROVE that the situation didnt hurt him I.e. watching her from the corner of his eye, etc. Whatever opinions are opinions and thats why we are all here!