Leaving for a few months

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Registered: 11-23-2003
Leaving for a few months
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 9:54pm
I met a great guy last month who I have been seeing once or twice a week when he is not working (he is a cop so he works long hours into the night.) Things have been going great but very slow. Right before I met him I accepted a 4 month internship in Florida starting this January. Lately he has been bringing up the subject of me leaving. I said something to him last night about whether he liked me because sometimes when we go out to a bar he doesn't seem like he is very into me, until he has a few drinks and then he seems not so tense. Last night he tells me that he may be holding back subconsiously because i am leaving because he has been with women who have moved away before and the long distance thing didn't work, however in those cases none of the moves were temporary like mine. So I am not sure what else to say to him and if he wants to take things slow, how slow should they be? He is looking to settle down but he only wants to get married once, so he wants to see how things go. Has anyone else been in this situation before? Please give some advice if you have. Thanks.