Legitimate excuse?

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Registered: 08-13-2006
Legitimate excuse?
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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 7:25pm

Last night I called and invited him over when hes done work. He said he would be over around 10 or 11 (so I assumed he'd be over around 12). Come 12:30 I call him and he is asleep!

This morning I call him to find out what happened. I said it would be nice if he would call if he was too tired or changed his mind. He said he didn't change his mind, he had fallen asleep. He said, he was getting ready to come over (shower, change) and decided to lay down for a bit but then he fell asleep.

Is this acceptable or is he lying?

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 4:46pm
Unless he's ever given you reason to doubt him or think he's lying, take his word for it. This is something that has happened to almost everyone. Why not give him the benefit of the doubt?

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Registered: 08-13-2006
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 6:24pm

I definitely don't want to come across as a nag. I don't want him to think I'm his 'mother' LOL. But he seems to have a habit of not calling to confirm things/times or in other incidents, not calling to cancel if he can't make it.

I think I just want to let him know that I'd appreciate some consideration in that respect. I don't know if this is a regular thing with him with his friends, etc. I just find this so frustrating because I'm sitting there expecting him to show up at such and such a time, and then he doesn't show up at all or not even a phone call.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 6:53pm

Really? Have you followed the OP's posts about this guy?

I'm a little surprised to read your response if so.

Sheri

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Registered: 02-09-2006
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 9:58am

How do we know if he's lying?

I'm sure that he told you the truth...he'd just gotten off of work...decided to lay down for a minute...and then fell asleep...believeable....

Why don't you give him the benefit of the doubt?

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 12:38pm


'..It's just that its happened a few times in a row where he didn't show up and didn't bother to call'

I am very sorry to say this but in my opinion and experience, a bloke who casually fails to show up when agreed and doesn't even bother to call you and let you know he won't be coming is, to put it mildly, not all that interested in you. And IMHO, if you are getting ready to see someone you are truly excited about seeing you will NOT fall asleep right before leaving your house. I have heard the 'I fell asleep' excuse before, closely followed by 'I care a lot about you; it's just that I cannot get close to anyone at the moment as it is the wrong time'. KWIM?

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