let him know my birthday?

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Registered: 11-07-2003
let him know my birthday?
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Sat, 08-28-2004 - 4:34pm
Hi I have been dating this man regularly,although it's been only a couple of months. The question is, I have a birthday coming up, shall I let him know? Will he like me to tell him or not? If you think I should let him know, how? Directly?
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Registered: 02-29-2004
Sat, 08-28-2004 - 6:52pm
I wouldn't be comfortable telling him after a couple of months but that is just me. I would feel really uncomfortable if after this short of time someone told me their birthday was coming up.

I wouldn't know what to get them or if I should get them something. I also would think they were emotional needy to share that with me so soon in the relationship

Why is it you want to tell him?

Are you expecting to be given a gift or taken to dinner.

If your friends are giving you a party I would invite him but not make a big deal out of it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2003
Sat, 08-28-2004 - 7:23pm
No, I actually didn't want to tell him. The only thing that I am concerned is that he might later think that since I didn't tell him, that means I am not having a close relationship with him. If that is not a concern, then I would be happy.

By the way, what if no friends at all remember my birthday? I never know about others. Are most of the birthday parties planned by friends secretly or because the person spoke out or hinted?

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Registered: 02-29-2004
Sat, 08-28-2004 - 8:05pm
Your close friends will celebrate your birthday as well as others who are close to you - like family etc.

I don't think this guy will mind after this short of time if you do not tell him.