Letting go

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Registered: 10-29-2003
Letting go
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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 8:54am
I week ago I wrote about this great guy that I have been dating. He wasn't sure if he wanted to continue dating because he didn't miss me when we went to Italy.

Well here is the update: He and I talked and he feels he needs to be by himself for the summer. He told me how attractive I am and how I am the nicest, sweetest girl he has ever dated. He felt like there should be more of a spark then there is. I told his I thought he was jumping then gun but the way he feels is the way he feels. I again was very calm and controlled, I told him I could understand that he would want to see what was out there. After all I am the first girl he has dated since his three years with his last girlfriend and then six months of not dating anyone. My girlfriends say that since I am being so cool about the whole thing and giving him his space, he might come back. He even said that he might realize that he was an idiot and call me up sometime to see if I was still free but he doesn't expect me to wait. He also told me he would call me this weekend. We also made plans for the following weekend to go to a concert that I already had tickets for. I don't know why but I can't shake the feeling that he is still the right man for me and that we aren't over. I felt this way even before we had this break-up talk.

I guess my question is, do men really come back?

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Registered: 05-26-2004
In reply to: alias9601
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 9:46am
I think sometimes that men do come back but dont bank on it.
Lilypie Baby Days

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Registered: 06-20-2004
In reply to: alias9601
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 12:53pm
They do come back, but not always for the right reasons. Sounds like this guy wants to see what's out there, play the field for a while. Maybe you are right for him, but just came along at the wrong time. I'd just leave it alone. I dont' even know if I'd go to the concert with him. You obuviously have strong feelings for this guy. But, if he's not sure, by spending time with him, you are only setting yourself up for being hurt. Separate yourself from him completely, at least for a while.