letting go the bad to let the good in?

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letting go the bad to let the good in?
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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 1:25pm

Question...How do u stop letting ur past relationships interfer with current present ones?

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 5:23pm

<< Question...How do u stop letting ur past relationships interfer with current present ones?

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Registered: 01-16-2005
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 6:02pm

I agree totally with Starbuck.


I'll also add that if you take the bad experiences from your past relationships, you are going to repeat it for sure. Take only the good, leave the bad. Each time you meet someone new, you should raise the bar a little higher. You will finally meet Mr. Right. That's why it's called Dating. It's a learning curve. And sometimes it hurts but you get back in the game.........eventually. Like Starbuck said, forgive yourself, and others. You don't have to tell them face to face, but in your mind, let it go. They were who they were and that does not reflect who you are or who the next guy will be. Never "compare" exes with current mates or discuss the pros and con's of past relationships. Would you really want your new guy telling you about his exes? You'd think he was just a complainer!


You will know when you are ready. It will be when you stop looking and have fun just being with yourself and friends.


Good luck!

PATTY


~Dare to believe in yourself~

PATTY

~Dare to believe in yourself~

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 6:22pm

I have found that by taking breaks after bad relationships it helps to clear my head so that I can see exactly what went wrong in the relationship and....what went right too.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 09-29-2007 - 8:49pm
Yes you need to spend time by yourself - learning who you are alone, looking at the relationships with a bit of distance so you can see your role as well as the guys.
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